Kungabangela ukucindezeleka lapho omunye wabazali bakho ene- stroke . Uma umama wakho noma ubaba wakho usanda kuba nesifo sohlangothi, kungenzeka ukuthi ukhathazeke kakhulu ngomzali wakho nokuthi uzobhekana kanjani nokukhubazeka okusha. Uma uhlala kude nomzali wakho, ungase ukhathazeke nakakhulu ngokuthi ungakusiza kanjani uma ungaseduze.
Izinkinga okudingayo okufanele uzicabangele lapho umzali wakho ehlela ekuphileni ngemva kokushaywa komzimba kuhilela impilo, ukuphepha, ezokuthutha kanye nezemali.
Ungafunda indlela yokuphatha izici eziyinhloko ekubhekaneni nokuphila ngemva kokushaywa kanzima ukuze ulungele kangcono ukusiza abazali bakho ngenkathi yokulungiswa kwesisindo bese ululame, noma ngabe uhlala ngaphandle kwedolobha.
Ukushayela Ngezitho Zokuthutha
Ukushayela kungenye yezindlela ezinkulu zokulungisa izinto zokuphila kanye nezinkinga zokuphepha ngemva kokushaywa yisifo. Abantu abaningi kumele baqhube ukuze bafike ezindaweni ezingaphandle kwekhaya.
Uma umzali wakho engakwazi ukushayela, kungase kudingeke ukuthi athembele kwabanye ukuze azungeze futhi kungadingeka ukuthi ahlele ukuphuma ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Umzali wakho angaqala ukuzizwa ehlukanisiwe futhi ecindezelekile uma kudingeka asebenzise isikhathi esengeziwe ekhaya kunalokho afuna.
Kunezizathu eziningana zokuthi kungani abasindile abaningi besifo sohlangothi bengakwazi ukushayela. Umbono ushintsho emva kokushaywa komzimba kungabandakanya ukulahlekelwa umbono wendawo noma ukulahlekelwa umbono ngeso elilodwa. Izibhamu zingabangela ubuthakathaka ohlangothini olulodwa lomzimba, okwenza isimo somshini wokushayela inselelo.
Ezinye izibhamu zithinta isahlulelo, futhi isifo singaphazamisa ukuqaphela ngakwesobunxele noma kwesokudla kwesimo esizungezile, isimo esaziwa njengokunganakwa kwe-hemispatial.
Futhi ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nalapho ukushaywa komzimba kungenzeki ukukhubazeka okungokomzimba okuphazamisa ukushayela, ukushaywa komzimba kungaholela ekutheni kube nesifo sokumelana nokulimala , okungabangela ukuba umuntu osindile isifo sibhekane nokugubha ngenkathi ehamba, engase alahlekelwe ukulawula imoto.
Imiphumela yokushaywa isifo ivimbela abanye abasindile besifo ukuba bakwazi ukushayela ngokuphepha. Lezi zifo ezikhungethwe ngemuva kokushaywa kanzima zingabungoza umshayeli, abagibeli bakhe, abanye abashayeli nabagibeli nabahamba ngezinyawo.
Noma kunjalo, umama noma ubaba wakho angase angafuni ukuyeka ukushayela ngenxa yokuntuleka kokuzimela. Ngakho-ke, yini okufanele uyenze uma ukhathazekile ngekhono lomzali wakho lokushayela, kodwa awuqiniseki ukuthi angayisingatha yini? Uma ukhathazekile, kungaba umqondo omuhle ukubuza umhlengikazi womzimba wakho noma uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ukuze ahlole ngokuqondile umzali wakho ngekhono lokushayela.
Uma umzali wakho ebhekwa engafanele ukushayela, khona-ke umzali wakho cishe uzolalela leyo mfundiso yezokwelapha. Kodwa-ke, uma umzali wakho ephikelela ekushayeleni naphezu kwama-oda wezokwelapha, khona-ke umthwalo ongathandeki wokuphoqelela lo mkhawulo ungawela emahlombe akho.
Kungasiza uma ukhumbuza umzali wakho ukuthi imoto, isondlo, izindleko zegesi nezindleko zomshuwalense ziyabiza. Mhlawumbe ungabonisa umzali wakho ukuthi izindleko zemoto ngebhasi, izitimela, amakolishi nezinye izinketho zokuhamba zilingana ngokubhala izinombolo zangempela ukuze umzali wakho abone ukuthi umgibeli angase angabi kubiza.
Futhi ungasiza ngenkathi ude kakhulu ngokuqasha umuntu ngenani elithile lokugibela noma inombolo ehleliwe yamahora okushayela futhi uzikhokhele. Izikhathi eziningi, lapho abazali beyazi ukuthi izingane zabo ezindala sezivele 'zikhokhelwe' okuthile, abathandi ukubona ukuthi inkokhelo iya ekudakeni.
Ikhaya Ukuphepha
Ngemuva kokushaywa yisisu, ezinye izakhiwo zendlu zingase zibe yinselele ekuhambeni, futhi zingase zihlale zingaphephile. Isibonelo, izitebhisi zingabangela ingozi uma umzali wakho enenkinga ngokulinganisela noma enobuthakathaka bomlenze. Insipho yesibisi esinezinkani noma ucingo oluvelele olwakucasulayo nje ngaphambi kokushaya isifo kungaba yingozi entsha ngemva kokushaywa yisifo.
Abasindile abaningi abahlukunyezwayo bahlala ephephile endlini eyodwa noma ezindlini. Kodwa-ke, uma lokho kungenakwenzeka, umzali wakho angakwazi ukuhamba ngezinyathelo ezihamba phambili futhi ezisezingeni eliphezulu, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi akakwazi ukuhamba ngezinyathelo ezihamba phambili futhi ezisezingeni eliphezulu ngenkathi ethwala umthwalo osindayo, njengesikebhe sokuhlanza.
Eminye imisebenzi yesondlo yasekhaya, njengokushintsha ibhethri ye-alamu yensimbi noma ibhuloho eliphansi, kudinga ukuma esiteji, okungenzeka kube nzima kakhulu ukuba umzali wakho abambe.
Kunezici eziningana okufanele uzicabangele uma kuziwa emalungiselelweni okuphila ngemva kokushaywa yisifo. Kukhona nenani lezinketho okufanele uzicabangele ngokwezakhiwo zokuvuselela.
Kuvamile ukuthi umzali akhathazeke futhi avikele lapho izingane zakhe zikhomba ukuthi zihambela endaweni engaphansi kokuzimela. Uma isahlulelo sakho sitshela ukuthi umzali wakho udinga ukuhambisa, ungamangazi uma umzali wakho enesenzo esibi. Lesi sinqumo kanye nenqubo ehambisanayo ingenye yezinselelo ezibaluleke kakhulu zendima yakho njengendodana noma indodakazi yomuntu osinda ngesifo sohlangothi.
Ukuqokwa Kwezokwelapha
Uma uhlala kude nomzali wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi awukwazi ukuya kuma-aphoyintimenti wezokwelapha womzali wakho. Kungase kubonakale ukuthi izinto ziyoba lula kakhulu uma ungamtshela udokotela ukuthi yini oyibonile futhi uzwa imibono nezeluleko zodokotela ngokuzithandela.
Kodwa-ke, ngenxa yezimiso ze-HIPPA, ubumfihlo bakho bomzali njengesiguli sezokwelapha kuvikelwe, futhi awunawo amalungelo okufinyelela kumarekhodi wezokwelapha womzali wakho noma ukuthola ulwazi oluvela kumathimba wezokwelapha womzali wakho ngaphandle kokuthi uthola ukugunyazwa okulotshiwe kumzali wakho.
Wonke umuntu osindile isifo sengqondo unesimo sengqondo esithile nesinqumo esiphathelene nokwaziswa okuningi kwezokwelapha ofuna ukuwabelana ngakho nokuthi ngabe abantwana abadala namadodakazi kufanele banikezwe ukufinyelela kumarekhodi wezokwelapha. Abanye abasindile ngengozi bafuna izingane zabo ezikhulile ukuba zizwe ulwazi ngqo kusuka kudokotela futhi 'zihumushe' zibe inkulumo ephansi, kuyilapho abanye beqaphelisisa ulwazi lwabo lwezempilo ngokumelene nezingane zabo ezindala.
Abazali bakho cishe bawela endaweni ethile phakathi kokubili okuphambene futhi cishe kuzokunika ukufinyelela kolunye ulwazi, kodwa hhayi konke. Kungumqondo omuhle ukuthi ungenele kudokotela wakho womzali ngokuqondile uma unendaba ngempela ngekhono lokwenza umama noma ubaba, ukuphepha kanye nekhono lokuqonda nokulandela imiyalelo yezokwelapha ngokufanele.
Imigomo
Imithethonqubo yomzali wakho ibalulekile. Uma ude kakhulu, ungase ungakwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umama noma ubaba wakho ugcwalisa imiyalelo njengoba ihleliwe. Uma ungacabangi ukuthi umama noma ubaba wakho uzofika ekhemisi ukuze uthole imithi ngesikhathi, kungasiza uma ubhalisa abazali bakho ohlelweni lokulethwa noma okungenani uhlobo lwenqubo yokukhumbuza.
Uma kuziwa ngokuthatha imithi ehleliwe ekhaya, kulula ukuba umzali wakho akhohlwe ukuthatha amaphilisi njengoba eyala. Imithi ingase ibangele ukusabela okujulile uma kuthathwa ngokungalungile. Kunezinombolo eziningi zokubala amaphilisi namaphilisi ukuze usize umama noma ubaba wakho bagcine amaphilisi. Futhi ezinye izinsizakalo zingasiza ngisho ukubeka amaphilisi emakhadini okubala kumzali wakho.
Enye into ebalulekile ongayenza nomzali wakho ukulungiselela uhlelo ngokuqondile ukuze umzali wakho azi ukuthi kufanele akwenze uma kwenzeka ukhohlwa iphilisi. Isibonelo, uma umzali wakho akhohlwa ukuthatha amaphilisi athile ngosuku, akufanele athathe enye eyengeziwe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngeminye imithi, kubalulekile 'ukubamba' ngamanani alahlekile. Udokotela womzali wakho noma umakhemikhali angakwazi ukupela lokhu ngaphambi kwesikhathi wena nomzali wakho, okungasiza ekugwemeni ukucindezeleka nokukhahlela izimpendulo emva kweqiniso.
Ukudla okunomsoco
Emva kweminyaka yomzali wakho ekutshela ukuba udle enempilo, ngemuva kokuba umzali wakho ene-stroke, kungenzeka ukuthi nguye okhathazeka ukuthi umzali wakho uyadla enempilo. Esikhathini esiningi, ngemuva kokushaywa yisifo, ukukhathazeka okukhulu kunomsoco kuhilela ukulahlekelwa kwesidlo nokuntuleka kwesinyathelo sokuthola ukudla.
Uma uhlala kude, ungahlela umngane ukuthi avakashele umzali wakho ukuletha ukudla okunempilo. Ungase futhi uhlele ukuhlinzeka ngezinsiza zokuhambisa ukudla noma ukhethe izitsha ezilungiselelwe abazali bakho uma ukhathazekile ngokudla kwe-caloric yomzali wakho.
Izimali
Uma umzali wakho engacabangi ngemininingwane noma engeke akwazi ukuhlala ngaphezulu kwezindaba zezimali nezindleko, kungase kudingeke ungenele. Mhlawumbe ukuzenzakalela ezinye izindleko futhi uzibekelele izaziso ze-imeyli kungasiza ukuguqula igebe ekunakekeleni komzali wakho ezindabeni zezezimali.
Abanye abazali baba yizinto eziphathekayo mayelana nemali, okukhathazeka ukuthi izingane ezindala zizophuma zingakabi 'ifa'. Njengendlela yokuqinisekisa umzali wakho, ungasetha uhlelo olukuvumela ukuba uthole izaziso futhi ukhokhe izikweletu uma sekwephuzile, kodwa hhayi 'ukuthatha' noma yini kusuka ku-akhawunti yakho yomzali.
Izinkinga Zokunakekelwa
Umnakekeli womama wakho noma ubaba angase abe ngumlingani womzali wakho, ingane yakini noma esinye isihlobo. Nakuba kungakuhlinzeka ngezinga lokukhulula uma umuntu othembekile enakekela umzali wakho, kubalulekile ukubheka umthwalo womnakekeli.
Kunezindlela eziningi ongafinyelela kuzo kumnakekeli wakho kayise noma unina. Ungacabangela ukuxoxa ngevidiyo, i-imeyili noma imidiya yezenhlalo njengendlela yokusiza ukunciphisa isizungu somnakekeli futhi unikeze ukwesekwa nokuxoxa ingxoxo.
Ukuthathwa Ngenzuzo
Yiqiniso, uma umzali wakho enganakekelwa njalo yisihlobo esithembekile, ungase ube nokukhathazeka ngobuqotho babantu abanakekela umzali wakho. Indlela ephumelela kunazo zonke yokubhekana nalokhu ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwane obungapheli nabantu abaningi abakuphila komzali wakho ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze bonke bazizwe belungele ukuxhumana nawe nganoma yikuphi ukukhathazeka okuvela. Futhi uma ubona noma yini esolisayo, kukusiza ukuthi ube noxhumana nabo owakhulile ukuthembela ukuthi ungafinyelela kuwo.
Impilo Engokomzwelo
Ukucindezeleka nokuzihlukanisa yizinkinga zangempela ezithuthuka ngemva kokushaya. Ukuzihlolisisa ngale miphumela evamile kungasiza ekunciphiseni abazali bakho inhlamba. Ingxoxo mayelana nezinyathelo zokuvimbela kanye nohlelo lokufinyelela ochwepheshe bezokwelapha ukubhekana nokucindezeleka uma kuphakama kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokunciphisa ubukhulu kanye nomthelela wokucindezeleka.
Izinguquko zokuziphatha
Uma uhlala kude, usengaba yingxenye yokuphila komzali wakho futhi ubukele ngokucophelela izinguquko zokuziphatha ngaphambi kokuba kube yingozi.
Ukuxoxa ngevidiyo kuyindlela engcono yokuthola isibambiso ekuziphatheni kunamakholi wefoni noma imibhalo noma ama-imeyili. Ukuxhumana njalo nabantu abakubo kamama wakho noma ubaba kungenza labo bantu bakuthembele futhi bazizwe bekhululekile ukufinyelela kuwe uma izinto zivela. Izinguquko eziningi zokuziphatha ezihlotshaniswa nesifo sofuzo zihlanganisa ukungabi nozwela , umhawu ongenangqondo kanye nokuhleka kwehlazo . Lezi zinguquko zonke zingathinta ubudlelwane nsuku zonke ngendlela enkulu uma abangane nomndeni bethatha izinguquko zobuntu siqu kunokuba baqonde ukuthi lezi zinguquko zibangelwa ukushaywa komzimba.
Izwi elivela
Uma ude kude nomzali oye waba nesifo sohlangothi, ungase ube nokucindezeleka okukhulu futhi uzizwe unecala futhi ungenasici mayelana nendlela yokusiza umzali wakho. Kodwa-ke, ungaba yingxenye yokuthola isifo somzali wakho ngisho noma uhlala kude.
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> Amadodakazi amadala enikeza ukunakekelwa kokunakekelwa komzimba kumzali: ukutadisha okunomqondo komthelela ongaba indima yokuphila, ukubamba iqhaza nobuhlobo bomndeni, uMastawrous M, Gignac MA, Kapral MK, Cameron JI, Ukuvuselelwa Kwemitholampilo, 2015 Jun; 29 ( 6): 592-600