Wake wakezwa abantu beqeda amasiko njengemigodi yasendulo yezinkolo zasendulo? Kwenza umehluko omncane kubo uma amasiko eMpumalanga, eNtshonalanga, enesizotha, noma ekhululekile. Abantu benza ingxabano ukuthi nakuba lezi ziphathekayo zingahle zihle futhi zisendulo, azihambisani nokuphila namuhla. Akukho okungaqhubeka phambili eqinisweni, ikakhulukazi kulabo abanakekeli abakhonza abathandekayo abanezifo ezingapheli noma eziqhubekayo.
Kubo, ukusetshenziswa kwemikhuba kungaba yithuluzi elibalulekile ku-arsenal yabo ezuzisa umuntu abakhathalelayo kanye nabo.
Ukubaluleka Kwamasiko Nemlando
IKardinal Theodore McCarrick waseWashington, DC wayekholelwa emlandweni, izimpawu namasiko ayebalulekile empilweni yabantu abangakwazi ukufunda. Labo ababusa umphakathi futhi babesebenzisa imidwebo kanye nemikhuba yokubhala nokufundisa abantu. Ukulawula kanye nemfundo kungachaza ukuthi kungani amasiko ayebalulekile ngezikhathi zesikhathi esidlule, kodwa uchaza kanjani amandla okwamanje owenza ngawo ngo-2016? Futhi okubaluleke nakakhulu, ingabe ukusetshenziswa komkhuba kuholela kunoma yini enhle?
Imikhosi engokwenkolo engewona inkolo isisondeza kusukela ekuvumeleni kwamaKatolika ukudlala iculo lesizwe ekuqaleni kwemicimbi yezemidlalo. Kuthiwani ngesimiso esiyisisekelo kangaka esiphambanisa yonke imigqa yenkolo nengewona inkolo?
Futhi kungani abantu abanakekeli kufanele bayamukele?
Okufanele Ukwenze: Ukukhohlwa mayelana nomkhuba wesihlobo ungaba nenkolelo yenkolo. Ukubaluleka kwalo kuwe kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungakhonza umsebenzi omuhle ekunakekeleni kwakho. Njengabanakekeli, awunakekeli kuphela izidingo zomuntu, kepha uzama ukuzwela imizwelo yabo.
Ukuhluka okubalulekile ekunakekelweni ukulahlekelwa ngumuntu ohlangene nezifo ezingapheli, ezinzima noma eziqhubekayo. Ngokulahlekelwa lokho kuvele ukuphulwa okwedlule, ngokuvamile kuvame izenzakalo ezimnandi. Ungavimbela igebe phakathi kokulahlekelwa nokuthi kwenzekani ngokusebenzisa amasiko. Ukuxhuma esikhathini esidlule kungase kungabi umvuzo njengoba usaqhubeka nokwenza imisebenzi yangaphambi kokugula, kodwa kungcono kunokuhlala ekulahlekeni.
Amasiko nabangaphandle
Izinhlangano eziningi zinemikhuba nemikhosi ehlukanisa namanye amaqembu. Sithola lokhu kuMose's Lodge Lodge kanye nasezigumbini zomgwaqo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumongameli weqembu elinomusa elizinikezele ekuzuzeni izingane ezihluphekile ezomnotho noma ilungu elisha leqembu lesithuthuthu elifisa ukwenza imisebenzi engekho emthethweni; amasiko ahlukanisa amalungu alo "angaphandle." Yeka indlela ehlukile ngayo izigqoko zamaqembu ezigwaqo emigwaqeni kunemibala ye-Shriner's Fez?
Isiko lendlela yokusho ukuthi sihlukile, siyikhethekile. Kungabandakanya izigqoko ezifakwe emaceleni amaMasons, ukusetshenziswa kwamathambo ku-Initial Odd Fellow ukuqaliswa noma ukubuyiselwa okubudlova ilungu elisha legazi legazi elilindelekile ukuba lihambisane nomphikisi. Nakuba kungekho okulingana nokuba nomsebenzi wangaphandle ekunakekelweni-ngaphandle kweyunifomu yomnakekeli ochwepheshe-ukubaluleka ukuqonda ukuthi umkhuba ungenza umuntu onakekelwa ukuba azizwe ekhethekile .
Isiko lingaba nomphumela omuhle Emhlabeni owehlayo womuntu ogulayo ogula noma oqhubekayo udala ukuzihlukanisa. Omunye umnakekeli wangitshela ukuthi esikhundleni sokuzama ukukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuthi isimo sakhe senhliziyo esiphumelekanga asizange sihlukanise naye, wasebenzisa ukuhlukaniswa ukuze enze isikhala esinokuthula. Njalo ntambama wabutha i-mail engenayo, futhi ngendoda yakhe bahlukumeza yonke into engenaye emlilweni eyayingabalulekile empilweni yakhe. Umdlalo uvutha amaphepha futhi bobabili bajabula ngokunciphisa lokho okwakungasabalulekile ekuphileni kwabo. Ukushiswa kwe-mail yangasese kwakungumkhuba owawududuza bobabili.
Okufanele Ukwenze: Kubonakala kungenakuqhathaniswa ukukhazimulisa isimo sezokwelapha njengento engabangela imizwa emihle. Ukudala ukuziphatha okuhlelekile okuvela ekuguleni noma ngesifo akuyona into engavumelaniyo noma engenangqondo. Kunalokho, lesi senzo sigxile ezintweni ezimbi ngaphakathi kwesimo esibi esingaveza imizwa evuselelayo njengoba yenzelwa isiguli esasikhipha ama-mail angenalutho. Thatha isici esicindezelayo kakhulu ngesimo somuntu obathandayo bese udala ukuziphatha okusemthethweni okunganciphisa imiphumela yaso emibi.
Amandla aKwaseMthethweni kanye Nesikhathi esidlule
Amasiko angakha ukuxhuma ngezinto ezedlule ezithandekayo, ezivuzayo, noma eziduduzayo kunalokho okuhlangenwe nakho okwamanje. Umlobi, uRobert Penn Warren uthe umlando awukwazi ukusinika uhlelo lwekusasa, kodwa ungasinika ukuqonda okugcwele kwethu, kanye nobuntu bethu obuvamile.
Isiko liyisixhumanisi nomlando wethu siqu. Kungaba yinkolo ngendlela yokufaka isithunzi somuntu ohlonishwayo noma ama-antics ezinkolelo-ze-baseball abadlali abalungiselela ukushaya ibhola. Amandla oxhumano kunokuba imvelaphi yenkolo noma engeyona yenkolo ibaluleke kakhulu.
Eminyakeni eminingi edlule, ngabuyela edolobheni elincane elisempumalanga yePennsylvania lapho ngakhulela khona. Kusengashintshi kwakuyi-movie yemidlalo engangiyiyo yonke iMgqibelo ntambama efihla ubuso bami lapho uDracula evele khona futhi ehlabelela uHalongalong Cassidy njengoba edubula isibhamu esandleni somuntu omubi ngaphandle kokulimaza.
Ngehora lesi-10 ekuseni ngabona umphathi wezemidlalo elungiselela ukuboniswa kusihlwa. Ngambuza ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuba ngiphumelele ehholo lapho nginezinye zezikhathi ezithokozisa kakhulu njengengane. "Yebo," esho.
Lapho ngihamba ngaphesheya kwesimiso sokuqabuleka, ngakhumbula ukuthenga amazinyo-ukubola i-candy ne-popcorn ezinamazinyo ezingakaze zisebenzise njalo ukuthi zingaphazamisa amazinyo ami. Ngangena phakathi komnyango wokungena ngakwesobunxele, ngangihamba ngisendleleni, futhi kwakukhona isihlalo sami esiwuthandayo ekupheleni komugqa we-8 engangihlala eminyakeni engaphezu kwengu-60 eyedlule. Njengoba ngangihlala kuyo, izithombe zangesikhathi esedlulile zakhukhula engqondweni yami: Abbot and Costello, Hopalong Cassidy, uBuck Rogers, ne-Our Gang Kids. Ukulahleka kwakusakazekile ama-Ju-Ju Bees angabamba ama-sneakers ngokuqinile phansi.
Kwakuwumkhuba onamandla njengeMisa yamaKatolika, ukuzila ukudla kumaJom Kipper wamaJuda, noma ukunxusa amaBuddha izikhathi ezintathu ukubonga. Amandla omkhuba wami owakhiwe ngokushesha wawungalingana nanoma yikuphi okuhlotshaniswa nenkolo; ungidonsela emuva engxenyeni ebalulekile yokuphila kwami. Abanakekeli bangasebenzisa amasiko axhumene nesikhathi esedlule somngane wabo omthandayo ukudala umuzwa wokuthula njengoba wenza kumuntu oneminyaka engama-80 owayengumlungu wesonto elidumile elisogwini olusentshonalanga ngesithuthuthu.
Wayevalelwe embhedeni esikhungweni sokunakekelwa. Emdongeni nasezindaweni ezizungeze ikamelo, kwakuyizikhumbuzo ezivela ezinsukwini zakhe zesithuthuthu kusukela ngo-1950 kuya ku-2015. Kwakukhona izithombe, izintambo, izembatho zokuzivivinya ngisho nezingxenye ezincane zesithuthuthu. Wachaza ukuthi waqala usuku lonke ngokuvakashela impilo yakhe, eqala izithombe zakhe ngokwakhe ngesithuthuthu lapho eneminyaka engu-15 ubudala futhi ephethe isithombe esithathwe yena emhlanganweni wakhe wokugcina weqembu.
Okufanele ukwenze: Iziningi zezimo zokukhathalela zihlanganisa ukududuza abantu abalahlekelwe okuthile okubalulekile empilweni yabo. Ngokuvamile kuhilela umsebenzi noma ikhono eliye lalahleka noma lisendleleni yokunyamalala. Abaningi bethu bayazi ukuthi yini elahlekile ayikwazi ukutholakala (isib. Ukusebenzisa ama-marathons kumuntu onesifo se-muscular degenerative). Kodwa izenzakalo ezingakhohlwayo ezihlobene namakhono alahlekile zingabuyekezwa ngokusebenzisa amasiko. Qala ngokuqoqa uxhumano lwekhonkrithi (isb., Izintambo zegalofu, amaqembu wegalufu akhethekile, njll). Bese usebenzisa njengesizathu sokwakha umkhuba.
Isiko kanye neNamuhla
Isiko lingahlinzeka futhi ukuvalwa okwamanje. Eminyakeni embalwa edlule ngaya emkhosini womngane wokudlula uLadrador Retriever. Wazungezwe izimbali, impepho nabangane bekhumbula izikhathi zabo ezinhle kakhulu kuye. Imikhuba umngane wami owadalwa ukuhlonipha impilo yenja yakhe yabangela izinkumbulo ezimangalisayo kubangane bakhe abaye emcimbini kunokuba bahlale emgodini omkhulu osele empilweni yakhe.
Okufanele ukwenze : Njengomnakekeli othile onesifo esibucayi noma esiqhubekayo, ubhekana nokulahlekelwa ngumuntu omthandayo. Ungaqiniseka ukuthi bazophola, noma uqinisekile ukuthi uzolahlekelwa yibo. Kungakhathaliseki ukubikezela, ungakha imicimbi emihle. Ungakha imemori ecacile nenhle kusuka cishe noma yini.
Lapho umkhwenyana wami efa, umndeni wawuzohlangana ndawonye embhedeni wakhe futhi ndawonye sasizikhumbula ezinye zezikhathi ezihlekisayo kakhulu esasiba nazo. Wabe esememezela indaba, eqhubeka ecela ukuthi sikhumbule izenzakalo ezinhle ekuphileni kwakhe. Eminyakeni eminingi emva kokufa kwakhe, ngamaholidi amaningi, sasixoxa ngezindaba njengokungathi sasiseceleni kwakhe. Leso siko sasisondeza kuye futhi saqhubeka nokulahlekelwa kwethu.
Isiphetho
Cishe yonke into esibhekana nayo igcinwa njengezinkumbulo ngendlela ethile. Ezinye izenzakalo zigcinwe njengokungathi ziyizingqwembe ezingezansi ezingezansi ezingenayo izinguquko ezincane noma ezingekho kulokho okubonwayo. Eminye igobile, idala izithombe zezinto esingakaze sibone ngempela kodwa sifisa ukuthi sinazo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kucacile noma kuphazamise kanjani imemori, igcinwa, ilinde ukubizwa ngezehlakalo, amagama, noma ngisho nemicabango.
Ngokudala amasiko amnandi sinikeza induduzo kumuntu esikukhathalelayo, bese sisa isiteji sokuxhumana okuzayo nomemori womuntu esimthandayo.
Isiko ngumcimbi obalulekile wengqondo oye wakhonza, okwamanje ukhonza, futhi uzoqhubeka nokukhonza isidingo esiyisisekelo sokuphila: Sisixhumanisa nesikhathi esedlule futhi sisishukumisele thina okwamanje. Ukuzikhiphela kulo, uzinqamula emlandweni wethu futhi usishukumisele ukuba simile yedwa okwamanje. Yamukela isimiso futhi uyisebenzise ukuze uzuze umuntu omnakekelayo futhi unikeze isisekelo esihlala njalo sezinkumbulo zakho.