Indlela Abesifazane Abenza Ukukhipha Isisu Kuyisinqumo Esifanele Kuzo
Ukuqonda izizathu zabesifazane zokukhipha isisu kungasiza ukwenza umuntu abe yingxabano ngale nkinga, imibono engalungile yomphakathi, futhi avumele ithuba lokuzwelana. Abesifazane banquma kanjani ukuthi yinto enhle yokwenza, hhayi nje kuphela, kodwa nangomntwana ongakazalwa nezinye izingane zabo?
Ngeshwa, azikho izindawo eziningi lapho abesifazane abangakhuluma ngakho ngezizathu zabo zokukhipha isisu-noma imizwa yabo ngemva kokukhipha isisu-ngaphandle kokuhlulelwa.
Nakuba ukukhipha isisu kuyindlela ejwayelekile kunazo zonke yokuhlinza abesifazane besifazane e-US, futhi kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.
Isinqumo sokukhipha isisu ngokuvamile sinqunywe izizathu eziningi. Abaningi besifazane bavame ukusho izizathu eziningi zokukhipha isisu. Ucwaningo luye lwaveza njalo izizathu ezifanayo ezivela kubesifazane ngokuthi kungani bakhethe ukukhipha isisu.
Izizathu Ezivame Ukukhipha Isisu
Ngokusho kocwaningo oluqoqwe kusukela ngo-2008 kuya ku-2010, izimpendulo ezikhulunywa kakhulu kakhulu abesifazane zihlinzeka ngezizathu zokukhipha isisu (kanti iphesenti yabesifazane abazinikezele) yizi ezilandelayo. Qaphela ukuthi abesifazane bakwazi ukunikeza izizathu eziningi kulolu cwaningo:
- Akulungiselelwe ngokwezimali: amaphesenti angu-40
- Isikhathi esibi, esingakulungele, noma esingenakulungiswa: amaphesenti angu-36
- Izizathu ezihlobene nozakwethu (kufaka phakathi ubuhlobo obubi noma obusha, akafuni ukuba ngumama ongashadile, umlingani wakhe akasekeli, akafuni ingane, ihlukumeze noma ingumfana ongafanele): amaphesenti angu-31
- Udinga ukugxila kwezinye izingane zakhe: amaphesenti angu-29
- Hhayi okwenziwe ngokomzwelo noma ngokwengqondo: amaphesenti angu-19
- Ukungenelela ngezinhlelo zemfundo noma ezokufundela: amaphesenti angu-20
- Izizathu ezihlobene nezeMpilo (kubandakanya ukukhathazeka ngempilo yakhe, impilo ye-fetus, ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa noma imithi engekho emthethweni, utshwala, noma ugwayi): amaphesenti angu-12
- Ufuna impilo engcono yengane kunokuba ayinikeze: amaphesenti angu-12
- Akuzimele noma kuvuthiwe ngokwanele kwengane: amaphesenti angu-7
- Izithonya ezivela emndenini noma kubangani: amaphesenti angu-5
- Akafuni ingane noma ukubeka ingane ukuba yamukelwe: amaphesenti angu-4
- Izinkinga ezihlobene nozakwethu: amaphesenti angu-31
Le nhlolovo yasebenzisa imibuzo evulekile kunokuba abesifazane bakhethe ohlwini lokuhlola lwezizathu ezenzelwe umcwaningi. Ucwaningo lwangaphambili olunezimpendulo zinezimpendulo eziningi kulezi zizathu:
- Ukuba nomntwana kwakuzoshintsha kakhulu impilo yami
- Ngiqede ukubeletha kwami
- Angifuni abantu bazi ukuthi ngilale ucansi noma ngikhulelwe
Kuyathakazelisa futhi ukukhomba ukuthi abesifazane abaningi bakhuluma ngezizathu ezimbili noma ezine zokukhipha isisu, hhayi nje kuphela . Ngokuvamile, abesifazane abasebasha bavame ukuthi bangakulungele ukuguqula umama , kanti abesifazane asebekhulile baveza ukuthi sebevele banesibopho sezingane kanye / noma sebedlule isigaba sokubeletha empilweni yabo.
Imicabango Engalungile Mayelana Nezizathu Zokukhipha Isisu
Kukhona abaningi abacabanga ukuthi izizathu zesifazane zokukhipha isisu zizungeze ukuyisebenzisa njengendlela yokulawula ukubeletha . Umbono ovamile ukuthi ukukhipha isisu kwenziwa ngokulula futhi njengendlela elula yokuphuma. Nokho, ukukhipha isisu kuyinkinga eyinkimbinkimbi futhi eyinkimbinkimbi.
Abaningi besifazane ababhekene nalesi sinqumo abawenzi lutho kalula.
Abaningi besifazane bazo zonke izizukulwane, ubuhlanga, izinga lokuthola imali, ubunye, kanye nemfundo abakhetha ukukhipha isisu izizathu eziphathelene nokukhathazeka mayelana nokuzibophezela ezinganeni nakwezinye izixhomeke-kanye nokukhathazeka ngezingane ezingase zibe nazo esikhathini esizayo. Abesifazane bathi basekela isinqumo sabo ngokuyinhloko ngokukwazi kwabo ukuhlala bezinzile ngokwezimali kanye nokukwazi ukunakekela izingane abanazo kakade.
Abesifazane abaye bakhipha isisu bathi akuyona indlela elula yokuphuma. Isinqumo esibuhlungu nesinzima esenzayo ngokucabangela ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngumntwana.
Yisinqumo esizoba nayo yonke impilo yakhe.
Ukunciphisa Ukukhipha Isisu
Isahlulelo esivamile mayelana nowesifazane onokukhulelwa okungakahlelekile ukuthi wayengenandaba nokusebenzisa isilawuli sokubeletha . Kodwa-ke, isigamu sabo konke ukukhulelwa okungalindelekile kwenzeka ngenkathi abesifazane besetshenziswa ukulawula ukubeletha. Ngenxa yalokhu, lapho bebhekene neqiniso lokuthi ukulawulwa kwabo kokuzalwa kuhlulekile , abesifazane abaningi baphikisana ngalokho okufanele bakwenze. Kwabanye, ukukhipha isisu kumelene nokuziphatha kwakhe noma izinkolelo zenkolo , kodwa hhayi kwabanye. Ingxabano yomphakathi ngokukhipha isisu nayo yenza ukhetho luyinkimbinkimbi. Isinqumo sokufuna ukukhipha isisu siningi futhi ngokuvamile sibheka inhliziyo kubantu abathintekayo.
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abesifazane abakhetha ukucindezeleka ukukhipha isisu ukuthi bahlolisisa kanjani izici zokuziphatha kwesisu sabo. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi nakuba abanye balaba besifazane bakholelwa ukuthi ukukhipha isisu akulungile futhi kuyisono, iningi lalabo besifazane (kanye nabanye, ngokujwayelekile) babonisa ukuthi isenzo sokunganaki sinesono futhi. Bafika esinqumweni sokuthi ukukhipha isisu kwakuyinto efanele ukuyenza kanye nokukhetha okunamandla kakhulu. Abaningi besifazane abakhethe ukuqeda ukukhulelwa kwabo bazokhuluma nokubunzima kwesinqumo sabo kanye nokuthi kunzima kangakanani futhi kunzima ukwenza isinqumo.
Abesifazane bacabangela isisindo sokuziphatha kwemithwalo yabo yemfanelo emindenini yabo, ngokwabo, nezingane abangase babe nayo esikhathini esizayo. Izinto zomuntu siqu, zomndeni, ezenhlalakahle, ezokuziphatha nezomnotho zonke izinto zibe yizizathu zokukhipha isisu.
Ukukhanyisa izizathu zabesifazane zokufuna isisu kungasiza ukwazi ukwazisa umbono womphakathi-futhi ngethemba ukusiza ukuvimbela noma ukulungisa ukungalungi. Ukuqonda ukubunzima kwalesi sinqumo kanye nezizathu zokuthi kungani owesifazane ekhetha ukusebenzisa lolu khetho angase avule umnyango wokuhawukela nokuqonda kwabesifazane abhekene nalesi simo esibuhlungu.
Umthombo:
> Biggs MA, Gould H, Foster DG. Ukuqonda ukuthi kungani abesifazane besuka ukukhipha isisu e-US. BMC Womens Health . 2013; 13 (1). i-doi: 10.1186 / 1472-6874-13-29.