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1. Okokuqala, Yazisa Ukuhluka Kwenu

Uma wena nomlingani wakho wombhede ungenalo imikhuba yokulala efana, ungase udinge ukulandela lezi zinyathelo ezinhlanu ukuze ulungise izingxabano zakho zobusuku bobusuku. Ngaphambi kokuthumela umuntu embhedeni, kungenzeka ukuthi wenze izinguquko ezimbalwa ezilula. Thola izindlela zokuxazulula ukuxabana phakathi kombhede, kusukela ekwelapheni ukulungisa futhi ukulala ukuphefumula ekwelapheni kokulala, futhi ulale kangcono ndawonye.

Qala ngokuthatha imizuzu embalwa ukucabangela ngokucophelela ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho wombhede uhlukile kanjani emikhakheni yakho yokulala. Kungase kuqale ngeliphi isikhathi othanda ukuyikhahla embhedeni. Uma usukhona lapho, uyahamba ngokushesha ukulala? Noma ingabe uchitha isikhathi ubukela ithelevishini , ufunda incwadi, noma ulala naye? Kuze kube nini uthanda ukulala lapha ngaphambi kokunquma ukukhipha?

Ngeke ube nezintandokazi ezifanayo kumlingani wombhede wakho, okuhlukile ekuqiniweni noma ekukhethweni kokulala. Ungumuntu othanda ishidi kuphela noma uyazifaka emabhokisini nomduduzi okhuni? Ingabe uyisela isembatho, uzibamba ebusuku? Uyakuthanda ukusondelana kombhede omncane, noma udinga indawo enkulu yenkosi ukuze ube nesikhala sakho?

Uthanda ubumnyama obuphelele noma ukukhanya ebusuku? Kungcono yini ukuba igumbi lipholile noma lifudumele? Ingabe ulala nesilwane sakho ozithandayo ngakwesokunene sakho , noma avinjelwe ekamelweni?

Ngokufanelekile, bobabili abalingani bombhede babezolandela izeluleko ezijwayelekile zokuziphatha okuhle zokulala . Lokhu, noma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi akunjalo-futhi kungase kube yinto yokuphikisana.

Okokugcina, hlola ukuthi unamaphethini afanayo okulala. Uma omunye wenu esebenza ebusuku, kanti enye engekho, lokhu kuzoveza ubunzima obucacile. Uma umuntu ethanda ukuhlala ephuzile futhi omunye evuka ukuze avuke i-rooster, lokhu kungaholela ekuxabaneni okwengeziwe. Isinyathelo sokuqala ekubhekaneni nalezi zingxabano ukubona ukuthi zikhona.

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Khuluma

Njenganoma yiziphi izinkinga ebuhlotsheni, azikwazi ukubhekwa uma omunye umuntu engajabuli, futhi ngokuqinisekile lokhu kuya ekamelweni. Uma usuhlaziye umehluko wakho, wabeka eceleni isikhathi sokukhuluma ngabo nomlingani wakho wombhede.

Le ngxoxo kufanele ivele ngesikhathi sokungathathi hlangothi lapho nonke nikhululekile futhi nithintana. Lokhu kungase kube isidlo sakusihlwa, ngemuva kokuthi ubeke izingane ukuba zilale, noma uma usuhlezi ukuphumula kusihlwa.

Yize lezi zinkinga zingabaphazamisa ebuhlotsheni, akudingeki ukuba kube nokuphikisana kulezi zingxoxo. Eziningi zalezi zingxabano aziyona indaba yokuzikhethela, futhi akufanele kube khona isahlulelo ngomunye umuntu.

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Funa i-Middle Ground

Uma usuhlole umehluko futhi wabenza waziwa kumlingani wakho wombhede, kufanele uqale ukufuna ukuyekethisa ukusiza ukuthi izinkinga zixazululwe.

Qaphela ukuthi ngeke uthole indlela yakho ngokuphelele. Yiba nesifiso sokwenza ukuvuma uma kuzokwenza izinto zibe ngcono. Mhlawumbe ungakwazi ukubekezelela ukukhanya ebusuku uma izinga lokushisa ekamelweni lingagcinwa emazingeni angu-60 esikhundleni sama-80. Mhlawumbe kunokuba kungabikho ithelevishini , ingahlala imizuzu engu-15 ngaphambi kokuba ivaliwe.

Ngokuqinisekile kuyoxhomeka ekuhlukeni, kodwa ezimweni eziningi, ukuxoxisana kancane kungase kuxazululwe inkinga.

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4. Uma Kunenkinga Yezokwelapha, Yibanike Fixed

Izinkinga eziningi zokwelapha ezingathí sina ziphazamisa ukulala komuntu nomlingani wabo wombhede. Lezi ngeke zihambe ngokunciphisa okulula futhi kufanele zihlolwe futhi ziphathwe ngumqeqeshi, okungabandakanya ukubonana nochwepheshe emithi yokulala.

Kukhona uhlu lokuhlanza lokuphazamiseka kokulala okungase kube khona: ukuphuza, ukuphefumula ukulala , ukuphumula kwemilenze , ukulala ubuthongo , i-parasomnias, ukukhubazeka kwe-REM ukulala kwesifo, kanye nokuphazamiseka kwesigqi se-circadian njenge-syndromes yesigaba sokulala esiphambili nokulibala. Iningi lalezi zizophazamisa umuntu olele naye. Kunezinkinga eziningi zezokwelapha ezivamile ezingaphazamisa ukulala.

Ngokuvamile, kuzodingeka ubone umhlinzeki wakho oyinhloko wokunakekelwa. Uma izinketho zokwelashwa ezitholakalayo ngalezi zinsiza zingasebenzi, ungase ufune ukuthunyelwa kuchwepheshe obuthongo. Ngokuvamile ukuxilongwa kwezifo zokulala kuyodinga ukutadisha ubusuku obuthongo . Ukunqoba nokuleleka kungaphendulwa ngokungenelela okufanele.

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5. Ungesabi Ukulala Ngaphandle Ukulala Okungcono

Uma izinkinga ziqhubeka emva kokuhlaziya umehluko, okwenza ukukhathazeka kwakho kwaziwe, ukufuna ukuyekethisa, nokuthola ukuhlolwa okufanelekile nokwelashwa kwezimo zezokwelapha, kungadingeka ukuphishekela ukhetho lokugcina: izikhala zokulala ezihlukene.

Ngaphambi kokuqeda lokhu, khumbula ukuthi ukulala yingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho jikelele nenjabulo. Uma imibhede ehlukene noma izindlu zokulala kuzokwenza ngcono isimo, khona-ke kungaba yindlela enhle kakhulu. Ungakwazi ukuya ocansini, ukukhuluma, ukukhipha, noma ukubopha isikhashana isikhathi esithile ebusuku ngaphambi kokubuyela ezindaweni zakho ezihlukene zokulala.

Ngithemba, ngalezi zindlela ezingenhla, kungase kube khona ukujabulela amaphupho amnandi ndawonye.