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Umbuzo: Ngingabasiza kanjani Izingane Zami Zokuzizwa Zizizwa "Zitholile"?
Ngingabasiza kanjani ingane yami ye-autistic ukuba izwe sengathi ipholile? Lapho ngineminyaka engu-16 ubudala, indodana yami ene- Asperger Syndrome izama ukuthuthukisa i-'so cool 'persona, kodwa ayikho kahle kakhulu. Uma engase nje afunde inkulumo encane, wayezoba amamayela ngaphambi kokuba abe khona manje. Ngicela ungisize ngithole indlela yokumsiza.
Impendulo: Kusuka kuDkt. Robert Naseef:
Isikhathi ngasinye sokuphila kwanoma yimuphi umntanakho, manje osemusha wengane yakho , kuletha inkathi entsha yokubeletha omama nobaba. I-Autism noma i-Asperger iyaqhubeka nokucindezela ukuguquka komzali nomntwana. Uma indodana yakho yenqaba ukuvuma ukuthi uhlukile kwabanye, empeleni ulwa nokuzimela kwakhe nokuzimela. Nakuba lokhu kungaba buhlungu futhi kungakhululekile ukubukela, kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi uyakhula. Ngakho kukhona isici esinempilo. Ukufuna ukungenelela futhi "ukupholisa" yifomu ukuthi lokhu kuthatha okwamanje. Akulula ukubhekana nayo, kodwa isigaba esisha sokuthuthukiswa. Kuwuphawu lwempumelelo yakho ekukhuliseni indodana yakho kanye. Zama ukubambelela kulowo mcabango, futhi uzinike isikweletu sokuthi le nkinga isifinyelele manje. Ukukhathazeka ngendlela azizwa ngayo manje kungamsiza ukuba aqonde futhi amukele umehluko wakhe.
Empeleni kukhona usizo olutholakalayo. Ukuqala, intsha eningi enothando luka-Asperger incwadi, i-Freaks, Geeks ne-Asperger Syndrome: Umhlahlandlela Womsebenzisi Wobuntsha, obhalwe nguLuka Jackson, osemusha onomusa ka-Asperger, futhi ushicilelwe nguJessica Kingsley.
Nawe uzothola ukuhleka okuhle okuncane kanye nokuqonda okunengqondo okuvela embonweni womuntu wokukhula nokubhekana nokungafani. Uqaphele ukuthi ukunakekelwa okuningi kunikezwa ngezigaba zangaphambili zokusebenzisana ne-autism kanye ne-Asperger, kepha izingane ezine-diagnostic ziyakhula futhi zibhekene nezinselele ezintsha nezinhlobonhlobo.
Kunezincwadi eziningi ezinikezela ngekharikhulamu yokufundisa amakhono omphakathi okudingekayo.
Uhlakaniphile ukuqaphela ukuthi awukwazi ukwenza konke lokhu ngokwakho. Kudingeka afunde lokho akudingayo kwabanye abantu futhi. Ngizosikisela isiqondiso sobuchwepheshe kokubili esikoleni nangaphandle kosuku lwesikole ngoba lokho kungase kungabi namahloni amancane ngaye. Imithi ingase ibe usizo. Ngizophakamisa ukuhlolwa ngodokotela wezingane othuthukayo noma ingane yengqondo yengane onolwazi lokuphatha izingane ezisencane no-Asperger. Ngokuvamile umthamo omncane ungenza umehluko omkhulu, njengoba abantu abaningi abaphumelelayo abanezifo ezixilongwayo bebike.
Okokugcina, ungakhohlwa ukuzinakekela wena kancane. Izingane zithatha isikhathi eside ukuba zilungele ukuhlala zodwa kuleli zwe lanamuhla futhi lokhu kubonakala kusebenza nakakhulu nabantu abasha abakhulela eceleni kwe-spectrum. Indodana yakho idinga ukuba ube nesimo esihle futhi ujabulele impilo ngenkathi le nqubo iqhubeka. Ufanelwe lokhu ngokwakho futhi.
Kusuka kuDkt. Cindy Ariel:
Intsha ngokuvamile inzima ukuvuma umehluko njengoba bezama ukuthola futhi bavumelane nabo ukuthi bangubani ngempela. Ukufakela kuzo kungenye yezinhloso eziyinhloko ezibhekene nentsha evamile phakathi nalesi sigaba sokuthuthukiswa kwazo.
Manje kunezincwadi eziningana ezinhle ezikhona ezingasiza indodana yakho emzabalazweni wakhe. Phakathi kwezinye izindawo, ungathola eziningana zazo emashalofini eduze kwencwadi uDkt. Naseef okukhulume ngayo, ngokusesha i-Amazon, noma nge-thumbing ngohlu lwe-Jessica Kingsley. Kungase kusize ukushiya izincwadi ezungeze leyo nkulumo ngokungafani, futhi nangenkinga evamile yentsha. Indodana yakho ingakwazi ukufunda ngalokho abanye abasha abakucabangayo futhi abakwenzayo ngokufunda ngakho, futhi bafunde ngaye kanye nokunye ukungafani ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Ngenkathi inqubo ingashesha, kungenzeka ukufundisa nokufunda ubuciko nesayensi yenkulumo encane.
Kunezindlela eziningana zokuzama ukwenza lokhu kwenzeke futhi usize intsha enjengeyendodana yakho ukuba ibe nesidingo esiningi esimweni sentsha. Ukuhlala eduze kwamanye amasha ezindaweni eziphephile ngokuvamile kuyasiza. Kunezincwadi ezingakusiza ukuba umqeqeshe ezinkulumweni ezincane namanye amakhono omphakathi. Uma unabangane ungaqhubeka nokukhuthaza ukusebenzisana ngenkathi kumsiza ukuba afunde ama-nuance enhlalakahle anzima kakhulu kuntsha eningi.
Ngalesi sikhathi, kungase kube nzima ukuba indodana yakho ivumelane nokuya eqenjini labamakhono emphakathini nabanye abasha, nakuba noma efuna ngempela ukuba nekhono elizungeze ontanga angase avume ngokungafuni futhi avume ngasese ithuba elinjalo. Khumbula-ke ukuthi indodana yakho ingase ingabi nesizungu ngendlela ozoyenza futhi ekugcineni kuyoba kuye ukuthi ubhekane nokungahambisani nokusola okungenzeka. Ngosizo lwakho, uma ekhuthazwa ukuba afinyelele futhi ahlanganyele nabanye, uzofunda ukuba nomphakathi ngokwengeziwe ngesikhathi sakhe.
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., noCindy Ariel, i-Ph.D., bangabalingisi be-"Amazwi avela ku-Spectrum: Abazali, Ugogo nomkhulu, Abantakwethu, Abantu abane-Autism, nabasebenzi Ababelana Ngokuhlakanipha Kwabo" (2006). Ewebhu ku-http: //www.alternativechoices.com .