Nazi izindlela ezimbili ezizimele zokuzimela kubafana be-autistic.
Abazali kufanele banikeze ingane yabo yokuzimela ngokuzimela ngaphezulu? Ingabe kufanele "uhambe," noma ngabe ingane yakho isencane kakhulu kuneminyaka yakhe? Odokotela. UCindy Ariel noRobert Naseef, bobabili odokotela bezengqondo abasebenza ngezidingo ezikhethekile imindeni inikeza iseluleko sabo.
Kusuka kuDkt. Cindy Ariel:
Ibhalansi phakathi kokubamba nokuvumela ukuhamba kungenye yezinkinga ezinzima kakhulu thina abazali esizobhekana nazo.
Ngalesi sikhathi empilweni yengane yakho, kungase kudingeke ukuthatha isihlalo esiphezulu esiningi ezimweni eziningi. Ungakwazi ukugcina imigqa yokukhulumisana evulekile nengane yakho futhi umsize enze lokho azama ukukukwenza.
Kuzo zonke izinsizwa, kulindeleke ukuthi sibe sempilo yabo futhi singabikho ubuso babo ngesikhathi esifanayo. Uma ingane yakho inenkinga enkulu yokuxhumana nomphakathi , okwamanje kungalungile ukuthi uhlele 'izinsuku zokudlala' noma uhlale uhlela amaqembu omphakathi, ungahlinzeka ngeziphakamiso zesikhashana kumfundisi noma umholi weqembu futhi ungaqeqesha indodana yakho eceleni.
Omunye umqondo obalulekile okumele ukhumbule ukuthi abanye abasha abafuni ukuxhumana okuningi nakuba abazali babo bengase bazizwe kubalulekile ukuba babe nakho. Kubalulekile ukuqiniseka ukuthi imigomo yomphakathi oyimisele ingane yakho ihlanganisa lokho akufunayo manje hhayi nje lokho ocabanga ukuthi kufanele abe noma akwenze.
Angeke neze abe impilo yeqembu futhi angase ahlale kancane kancane, kodwa kuye kungaba yindawo ekhululekile futhi ayisebenzisayo. Ingahlinzeka ukuxhumana nabantu kanye nabangane futhi okwamanje inikeze ibanga elikhululekile hhayi ukucindezelwa okuningi. Uma efuna okungaphezulu, ungamsiza ukuthi afunde ukuthutha futhi afinyelele okuningi ngezinga lakhe.
Kusuka kuDkt. Robert Naseef:
Ukubambelela nini, nini ukuvumela ukuhamba, nini ukusunduza, nokuthi nini ukudonsa; Lezi ezinye zezihloko zonke umzali ezibhekana nazo-nge "evamile" kanye nezingane "ezikhethekile".
Imiphumela yezingane kanye nentsha ihamba phambili uma abazali nabachwepheshe bebambisana ngokuhlonipha futhi bahlanganyela amandla okwenza izinqumo. Abazali, ngenxa yezibopho zabo nengane yabo, yiziphathimandla zeqiniso ngokwabo, ngolwazi lokufaka isandla okungekho omunye umuntu okwazi ukufinyelela kuso. Ochwepheshe, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokuqeqesha nokuhlangenwe nakho, banganikeza ubuchwepheshe kanye nombono obala ukuthi abazali bodwa abanakho. Ngamunye unolwazi oluyingxenye kuphela, nolwazi oluphelele olunokwenzeka ngokusebenzisa umsebenzi wethimba-kuvame ukuhlolwa nokuphutha. Uma ingane yakho ikhulile ngokwanele, uma kunokwenzeka, kufanele ihileleke ochwepheshe kanye nawe ekwenzeni uhlelo. Lokho acabanga ukuthi uyayidinga kubalulekile ekufikeni ohlelweni oluhle ngethuba lokuphumelela.
Ukuvumela ukuhamba kungase kuzwakale kakhulu, futhi mhlawumbe kanjalo. Mhlawumbe indlela engokoqobo yokubheka le nkinga ukuvula nje ukubamba kwakho ubone ukuthi kwenzekani. Uma ingane yakho ibonakala ihlehlisela emuva, lokhu kungenza abanye bakholwe ukuthi udinga ukwesekwa okwengeziwe kunalokho abakucabangayo.
Uma ngandlela-thile ekwazi ukuhlangabezana nale nselele, ungase umangale. Kunezintambo ezingenakugwemeka ezingenakugwemeka nezingenakugwemeka kule nqubo. Asikwazi ukulawula lokho, kodwa singakwazi ukulawula indlela esabela ngayo kubo.
Umehluko phakathi kwengane yakho ye-autistic kanye nabanye ubudala bayo ingaba nzima nakakhulu ngesikhathi sokukhula. Abanye abangane bakhe abahamba phambili bangase babe nezinye izinsizwa ezikhulayo ngokuxilongwa kwi-autism spectrum . Abanye abantu bayakuqaphela lokhu ngoba bazimisele, ngokuqondakalayo, ukuba izingane zabo zamukeleke emphakathini. Okungokoqobo ukuthi ingane yakho izodinga ukusekelwa nokuqondiswa okuqhubekayo, okunye okuvela kubachwepheshe abanolwazi, ukuqhubeka nokuthuthukiswa komphakathi.
Nakuba lokhu kungase kube nomnotho wezimali, izinzuzo zesikhathi eside zidlula kakhulu izindleko zokungamukeli lolu lwazi.
Kuyindlela emide futhi ehamba phambili yokukhulisa umntwana we-autistic. Kunzima ukwazi nganoma isiphi isikhashana ukuthi yini okumelwe yamukele nokuthi yini okufanele usebenze kuyo. Umsebenzi womzali awupheli-uyashintsha nje. Zinike isitifiketi esifaneleka ngemuva ukuze uthole lokhu kude. Zizinakekele kahle futhi.
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., noCindy Ariel, i-Ph.D., bangabalingisi be-"Amazwi avela ku-Spectrum: Abazali, Ugogo nomkhulu, Abantakwethu, Abantu abane-Autism, nabasebenzi Ababelana Ngokuhlakanipha Kwabo" (2006).