Ingabe ingane yakho ye-autistic izokhula ukuze iholele impilo evamile?
Lo mbuzo awuhlukumezi nje abazali, kodwa futhi ungaba mantra ngogogo nomkhulu, abangane, nomndeni osondelene. "Uyoyeka nini ukwenza kanjalo?" "Ingabe uzokwazi ukuhlala yedwa?"
Okubi nakakhulu, lezi zinhlobo zemibono ayinakuvinjelwa ngoba zakhiwe ekuhlolweni kwe-autism , ukuhlelwa kokuguquguquka, izinhlelo zokusebenza kuhulumeni kanye nezinhlangano zikahulumeni, nezingxoxo nabeluleki nabaqondisi bezezimali.
Ngokudabukisayo, imibuzo mayelana namakhono nezidingo zesikhathi eside ze-autistic ingane iqala isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuhlela kwangempela kungaqala. Futhi, yiqiniso, azivame ukusetshenziselwa ukuthuthukisa izingane . Izingane ezivamile, ngenxa yezizathu ezingahambisani ncamashi neqiniso, kuthiwa zibhekiswe ezimele, ezikwazi kahle, ezikhulile.
Ubani obuza umzali womuntu oneminyaka engu-10 ubudala ukuthi "uzoshada yini?" Ubambe umsebenzi? " Ubani ocela umzali wengane eneminyaka engu-14 ekhulayo ukuba abeke ingane yabo ngokusebenzisa uchungechunge lwezilinganiso ze "amakhono okuphila okuguquguqukayo" ukuze banqume ikhono labo labasha abasha lokukwenza ukuhlanza, ukupheka ukudla noma ukuphatha imali? Bangaki bafunda esikoleni samabanga aphakeme nabazali babo kulindeleke ukuba bakhe uhlelo lokuhlala isikhathi eside sokuqeqeshwa kwezemfundo noma ukuqeqeshwa emsebenzini, izindlu, nokuphila okuzimele? Impendulo yalo mbuzo yiqiniso, ayivamile noma ayikho.
Ngakho-ke, kunikezwa ukuthi uzobuzwa le mibuzo (nokuthi ungazibuza wena, noma ungazikhulumi ngokuzwakalayo), uphendula kanjani?
Nazi iziphakamiso ezintathu.
"Usho ukuthini ngokujwayelekile?" Ngokumangalisayo, ngalolu suku nangaminyaka, abantu abaningi basacabanga ukuthi abantu abadala "bajwayelekile" bahilela umsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele ngempesheni, umshado wesilisa ocansini, izingane ezingu-2.5, kanye nendlu yokugodla emadolobheni.
Bangaki abantu abaphila ngale ndlela? Akuningi!
Abantu abadala, ngisho nangemfundo yasekolishi ehehayo, beza ekhaya kumama nobaba - futhi banamathela iminyaka eminingi. Abantu asebekhulile bahamba nabantwana babo. Umshado wesandulela ngculazi manje ungumthetho wezwe. Imibhangqwana eminingi ihlala ndawonye ngaphandle komshado. Imisebenzi ayiqinisekisiwe, kanti izimpesheni zizophela. Imisebenzi eyi-Virtual, imisebenzi yesikhashana, imisebenzi yokuqashwa, kanye nemisebenzi yekhomishana yanda kakhulu.
Ngakho ... yiliphi uhlobo elithi "evamile" lingase lilungele ingane yakho ye-autistic?
"Usho ukuthini uma ukhulile?" Ngokwesiko lamaJuda, ingane ibhekwa njengumuntu omdala eneminyaka engu-13. Amathuba amaningi avulelwe intsha eneminyaka engu-16 ubudala. Amantombazane angadluliselwa empini ngesikhathi eneminyaka engu-18. Ukuphuza kusemthethweni ku-21. I-IDEA inikeza usizo kubantu abadala abase-autism kuze kufike usuku lokuzalwa lwengu-22. Kodwa abaningi abaseMelika abasha, ngisho nalabo abangenayo izinselelo ezithile, bathembele kubazali babo ngemali, izindlu, nokusekela okuhle ekupheleni kweminyaka engama-20.
Abantu abane-autism yi-definition, ukulibaziseka ngokwedlulele . Ezimweni eziningi, abasoze "babambelele." Kwezinye izimo, nokho isikhathi senza umehluko wangempela ekusebenzeni ikhono.
Ingabe umuntu omdala nge-autism "ukhulile" eneminyaka engu-21 noma engu-22? Noma ingabe ukulindela kwabantu abadala okumele bazihlehlise (njengoba kunjalo kubantu abadala abaningi) kuze kufike usuku oluthile olwedlule?
"Usho ukuthini ngokuzimela?" Kukhona inkolelo evamile yokuthi abantu abadala kufanele bakwazi ukuphatha yonke imininingwane yokuphila kwabo yedwa, ngaphandle kokusekelwa. Lokhu kusho ukusebenza isikhathi esigcwele, ukudala nokugcina impilo ehlala enhlalakahle nokuzilibazisa, ukuqasha noma ukuthenga nokugcina nokuhlanza ikhaya, ukuthenga, ukupheka, ukukhokha izikweletu nezintela, ukuphatha ukukhathazeka kwezempilo kanye nomshuwalense wazo zonke izinhlobo ... uhlu luqhubeka futhi kuqhubeke.
Yiqiniso, bambalwa kakhulu abantu abaphatha wonke lawo " amakhono okuphila abazimele " ngokwabo. Abantu abashadile babelana ngomthwalo. Abantu abanemali baqasha abanye ukuba benze ingxenye enhle yomsebenzi.
Abantu abangashadile babuza usizo nomndeni. Abaningi abathuthuka abantu abahluleka ukuphatha uhlu olukhulu lwe-back-back - futhi, ngenxa yalokho, bavuleke esikweletini, bahlala ekulahleni, noma bangakwazi ukunakekela izidingo zabo zezempilo.
Ingabe silindele ukuthi abantu abadala (noma bafuna ngisho ne-WANT) babe ne-autism ukuba bazimele ngokuzimele? Noma kufanele sicabange ukuthi, njengabo bonke abanye, bayodinga iseluleko nokusekelwa?