Kusho ukuthini uketshezi oluhlanganisiwe?
Ababhangqwana abakhetha ukuyeka ukwenza ucansi oluvikelekile omunye ngezinye izikhathi kuthiwa banamathele emzimbeni. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi babelana ngamanzi omzimba omunye nomunye. Eminye imibhangqwana engabodwa iyakholelwa ukuthi ukuhlanganiswa okuketshezi kuyindlela yokuthuthukisa ukusondelana. Kodwa-ke, akukho lutho olusondelene kakhulu ngokuba nobulili obuvikelekile uma kuqhathaniswa nobulili obuvikelekile .
Imibhangqwana eminingi isondelene kakhulu amashumi eminyaka ngaphandle kokushintshana kwamanzi.
Imibhangqwana eminingi ingenzi ubulili obuphephile. Noma kunjalo, izenzo ezinjalo ngokuvamile zibizwa ngokuthi ukuhlanganiswa kwamanzi uma zikhetha abantu abakhona ebuhlotsheni. Isiqunto sokuba ngumkhuhlane ohlangene ngokuvamile siba khona ngemva kwesikhathi esithile lapho umbhangqwana usebenzise ubulili obuphephile. Imibhangqwana eminingi ilindele ukuhlola ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuhlanganiswa oketshezi kuze kube yilapho behlolwe ama-STD .
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ukuhlanganiswa okuketshezi kungafaka abalingani engozini ye- STD uma lokho kuhlolwa kwe-STD kungekho okuphelele. Akuwona bonke abahlolwayo odokotela bazo zonke izifo ze-STD . Lokhu kungabanika abantu umqondo wamanga wokuphepha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imibhangqwana eminingi ayiqapheli ukuthi ama- STD kaningi angenayo izimpawu . Bangakholelwa ngokungalungile ukuthi iphephile ukuyeka ukusebenzisa izithiyo ngisho nangaphandle kokuhlolwa , uma kungenjalo umlingani unayo izimpawu ezibonakalayo.
Ukuhlanganiswa kwamanzi akukwenzeka nje phakathi kwamabhangqwana abesilisa nabesifazane.
Amadoda alala nobulili nabesilisa nabesifazane abalala nabesifazane nabo bahlanganyela ebuhlotsheni obunamathele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanye abantu ababandakanya i-polyamory kanye nezinye izinhlobo ze-non-monogamy engavamile bayabheka njengoketshezi oluhlanganiswe nomuntu oyedwa noma ngaphezulu. Bangase bahlanganyele ocansini evikelekile ngaphandle kwalezo zinsuku.
Abafundisi abaningi bezocansi , mina ngokwami bahlanganisa, bakholelwa ukuthi kubalulekile ukuzama ukukholisa abantu ukuthi bashintshe iskripthi socansi esenza abantu bakholwe ukuthi ubulili obuvikelekile kusho ukuthi banezinga eliphakeme lokuzibophezela. Ukusebenzisa ubulili obuphephile akumele kubonwe njengesibonakaliso sokuthi umuntu akathembi umlingani wakhe. Kunalokho, kufanele kubonakale njengesibonakaliso sokuhlonipha umzimba wabo. Kumele kubonakale njengesibonakaliso sesifiso sabo sokuvikela umuntu, noma abantu, abathandayo ekulimazeni.
Ngokuqinisekile kungenzeka ukuba wenze isinqumo esinolwazi sokuba nomkhuhlane ohlanganiswe nomlingani. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ngisho nangomlingani okhuthazayo nge-STD. Kodwa-ke, ukubopha okuketshezi akuyona ukukhetha okumelwe kwenziwe kalula. Ukuhlanganiswa kwamanzi akufanele kube yindlela yokubonisa uthando lwakho noma ukwethemba kwakho . Kungani ungase uqale ukuxoxa ngokuthi kungenzeka yini ukuba nobulili obungavimbelwe nomunye umuntu uma uthando noma ukwethenjwa kwakungumbuzo?
Izibonelo:
Isinqumo Esihle Sokucabangela Ukuba Ngokwemvelo
UJohn noMaryne bebelokhu besondelene isikhathi esingaphezu konyaka, benza isikhathi socansi oluphephile isikhathi sonke. Ezinyangeni ezimbili emva kokugubha usuku lwabo lokugubha usuku, bahlela ukuvakashela umtholampilo ndawonye ukuze bahlolwe izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi . Ngemva kokwenza ucwaningo lwabo, bacela odokotela babo ukuba bawahlolele i-HIV, i-herpes, i-syphilis, i-gonorrhea, i-chlamydia, ne-trichomoniasis.
Uma imiphumela yabo ibuya ingalungile, ixoxa ngezinto. Bakhetha ukuthi kusukela bobabili bethembekile, futhi bahlose ukuhlala njalo, bafuna ukuyeka ukuziphatha kocansi oluphephile futhi babe nokuhlanganiswa kwamanzi. UMarianne uqala ukusebenzisa iphilisi ukuze azivikele ekukhulelwe uma ayeka ukusebenzisa amakhondomu .
Isinqumo Esibi-Ukucabangela Ukuthi Sibe Nomfutho Wegazi
UBrian no-Annie bebelokhu bekanye ndawonye izinyanga ezintathu. Bahlangana ndawonye lapho bobabili bekhohlisa abanye abalingani. Ngesonto eledlule, bathuthela endlini entsha ndawonye. Akekho omunye wabo osanda kuhlolelwa ama-STD.
Bobabili bahlale belala nabanye abantu, kodwa bazibophezele ukwenza lobudlelwane basebenze. Ngisho noma uBrian uye wathola ukuthi unesifo se- herpes sangasese ngokobulili , akavame ukuqubuka. Ngakho-ke, lapho ebuza u-Annie uma efuna ukuba nomswakama obanjwe naye, unquma ukuthatha ingozi. Ukholelwa ukuthi ukuhlangana okunezicucu kuzosiza ekuqiniseni ukuzibophezela kwabo. Emasontweni ayisithupha ngemuva kokwenza isinqumo, utholakala ukuthi une-chlamydia ngemuva kokuya ocansini engavikelekile nomunye owesifazane.
Izwi kusuka
Abantu bangase bahlanganyele ekuzibophezelweni oketshezi ngezizathu ezinhle noma ngezizathu ezimbi. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abantu bazi, futhi bakwazi ukuxoxa, izingozi. Uma ucabanga ukuthi uketshezi oluhambisana nomlingani kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngemilando yakho yezocansi ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka. Kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngokuzibophezela kwakho mayelana nobulili kanye nokusebenzisa ubulili obuphephile. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ngalokho ongakwenza, futhi awukwazi, ukwenza ebuhlotsheni bakho. Khona-ke ungenza isinqumo esihle mayelana nokuthi ukubopha okucwilisayo kunengqondo noma ngabe bobabili bazozizwa bejabule futhi bevikelekile uma unquma ukuqhubeka nokuziphatha ngocansi oluphephile.
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