Abazali abaningi-kufanele babe nesithombe engqondweni yabo ngomfana omncane noma intombazane ecela izikhonkwane nezinkuni, emema umama nobaba ukuba bazenzele itiye, noma becela "uzoza ukudlala?" Eqinisweni, abazali abaningi abalindeli kuphela kodwa bancike emntwaneni wabo ukuba abe iphupho lemibono kanye nomgqugquzeli wezokudlala.
Izingane ezine-autism, nakuba kunjalo, empeleni, zinombono omkhulu , akunakwenzeka ukuthatha ukuhola umphakathi.
Eqinisweni, izingane ezine-autism zivame ukujabulisa kakhulu ukudlala yedwa , ukuphinda imisebenzi yazo ozithandayo ngokuphindaphindiwe, ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka kumama, ubaba noma omunye umuntu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane ezine-autism azivame ukulingisa abanye. Ngenxa yalokho, bavame ukudlala izinhlobo zokuzijabulisa noma ezemidlalo abazali abazilindele. Umqondo wokulingisa umzali wokupheka ukudla ungase ungabikho kubo. Umqondo wokudlala ugqoke, noma ukufana "nomama, ubaba, izibalo zezemidlalo, noma izinto eziyingqayizivele angeke zingene ezingqondweni zabo. Bangase bangabonisi izigcawu ezivela empilweni yangempela noma bafisa ukuba babe izinkosana noma amakhosazana.
Lokhu kudibanisa abantu abaningi abadala, abalindele uhlobo oluthile lokuziphatha, abanenkinga enzima kakhulu ekushintsheni okulindelekile. Ngokuvamile, abazali nabagogo nomkhulu banquma ukuthi ngeke baqonde ingane yabo, futhi bayeka ukuzama. Akazisho ukulimaza noma ukunganaki, kodwa baye benza izingqondo zabo ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukwakha ubuhlobo.
Ngakho abakwenzi.
Abazali Abazali Bathi Ngezingane Zabo Ezizenzekelayo Ezonakalisa Ubudlelwane
Ngeshwa izingane ezine-autism, hhayi ukuzibandakanya kulula kakhulu. Konke okumele ukwenze kusho enye yale migomo, futhi abantu abaseduze nawe bayodonsa ngokuqonda. Umphumela: awusoze wakha ubuhlobo nengane yakho ye-autistic.
I-Period.
Nazi imishwana embalwa ezokusiza ukuqinisekisa ukuthi awusoze wazi ingane yakho ye-autistic:
- "Ngizomvumela nje eze kimi. " (Ngeke eze kuwe ngoba izingane ezine-autism azicabangi ngawe ngaphandle kokuba zinesizathu esihle sokwenza kanjalo.)
- "Angifuni ukumcindezela." (Uma ungalokothi uphonse inselele ingane yakho nge-autism ukuze uhlanganyele nawe noma wenze okuthile ngaphandle kwendawo yakhe yokududuza, akasoze ayenze. Lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga ukumcindezela endaweni yokukhungatheka, kodwa inselele encane iya indlela ende.)
- "Uzovutha nje." (Yebo, uma ugxila ingane yakho uzodumala. Kodwa uma uxoxa naye lapho esevele ekhululekile futhi enikezela izinselelo ezinhle, ngeke akhathazeke - nakuba angase ajabule, ajabule futhi ahlanganyele!)
- "Uvele engakwazi ukwenza lolu hlobo lokudlala ." (Kuyiqiniso ukuthi izingane ezine-autism azikhetheli ukukhetha noma zenze sengathi zikhona omunye umuntu, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi izingane ezine-autism azikwazi ukuklama-futhi, empeleni, kusho ukuthi ABAKHO ukulingisa. Kodwa, kuthatha umsebenzi othile engxenyeni yabazali ukuthola indlela yokusiza ingane ene-autism ukuze iqale ngokuzenza sengathi udlala noma udlala ngokuzenzakalela.)
- "Angikhululekile ngempela nabantu abakhubazekile." (Lokhu kuvame ukukhathazeka ngempela: abantu abaningi abadala bazizwa behlukunyezwa noma yikuphi uhlobo lokuhlukana kwengqondo noma yentuthuko. Ngesinye sezizathu eziyinhloko ukuthi kungani abazali, ogogo nomkhulukazi, oangukazikazi, nomalume bengenalo ubuhlobo obuncane noma abukho ilungu lomndeni kwi-autism spectrum. Ukubheja okungcono kakhulu nje - ukuwuthola.)
- "Angithandi, ngakho-ke ngizohamba." (Ukugcina ibanga lakho kuyindlela enhle yokuqinisekisa ukuthi awusoze uthola eduze-ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo - kumntwana wakho we-autistic. Ukukhetha okungcono ukubuka abantu abenza ukuthi basondele , bona ukuthi yini esebenza kahle, futhi uyinikeze zama. Kulungile ukuzama, ukwehluleka, futhi ufunde emaphutheni akho - kodwa ukungazinaki noma ukungakunaki ingane yakho akukona ok.)