Funda ukuthi ungasho ukuthini kunokuba umuntu one Stage 4 Cancer Breast
Abantu bavame ukuzibuza ukuthi bangathini kumuntu onomdlavuza wesifuba-ikakhulu umdlavuza webele we-metastatic.
Njengoba ukusho okuthile kungcono kunokuba ungasho lutho, umbuzo ongcono kungaba ukubuza ukuthi yini ongayisho kumuntu osanda kutholakala ukuthi unesifo somdlavuza wesiteji sesine noma isifo somdlavuza sesifuba sakhe siphindele. Okokuqala, ake sithathe isikhashana ukukhuluma ngalokho okusho ukuthi ube nomdlavuza webele wesisu noma ukuphindaphinda kwesifo.
I-Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC)
Umdlavuza webele we-Metastatic (MBC) ubhekisela emdlalweni wegciwane lesifuba osakazekile ( okusetshenziselwa umzimba ) ezindaweni ezikude zomzimba. Lapho umdlavuza webele usakazeka emagqabeni amancane ukuthi sisetshenziselwe izidakamizwa, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi ngumdlavuza webele we-metastatic.
Umdlavuza webele we-metastatic ubizwa nangokuthi isiteleka sesine sebele, isigaba esiphezulu kakhulu sesifo. Abanye abantu bangasebenzisa igama elithi umdlavuza webele we-advanced breast ochazwe ngendlela ehlukile. Isifuba esithuthukisiwe sifaka isigaba 3B nesigaba se-4 sesifo somdlavuza webele , futhi ngokuyinhloko sisho ukwelashwa kwebele okungeke kwenzeke ngokuhlinzwa.
Umdlavuza webele we-Metastatic awuphilwanga, nakuba uphethwe kakhulu. Ukuthi awukwazi ukuphulukiswa kubangela ezinye izimpendulo ezilimazayo ukuthi abesifazane (kanye namadoda anomdlavuza webele ) bezwa ngokuphathelene namagciwane abo.
I-Breast Breast Recurrent
Abantu abaningi abanomdlavuza wesifuba we-metastatic banomdlavuza wesifuba sangaphambili.
Kungenzeka ukuthi baphathwa isifo somdlavuza webele wezinyanga zakudala noma ngisho namashumi eminyaka ngaphambili. Ungase uzibuze ukuthi umdlavuza ubuya kanjani ngemva kwalokho. Asiqondi ukuthi kungani umdlavuza webele wehla kodwa kunezinkomba eziningi mayelana nokuthi umdlavuza ufihlekile nokuthi kungani ubuya . Okubalulekile kubathandekayo ukuthi baqonde ukuthi lokhu kungakwenza futhi kwenzeke, futhi uma kwenzeka, abesifazane (noma amadoda) bafanelwe konke ukusekelwa ongayifaka, hhayi imibuzo mayelana nokuthi kungani kungenzeka khona.
Ungase ube nesithakazelo ekufundeni okwengeziwe ngokuthi umdlavuza usakazeka kanjani .
Ukuphindaphindiwe komdlavuza webele kungathatha amafomu ahlukene. Abanye besifazane banomdlavuza wesikhumba wendawo wendawo ngemuva kokuba i- lumpectomy isenzeke esifubeni esifanayo. Kulesi simo, ukuphindaphindiwe ngeke kukhulunywe njengomdlavuza webele we-metastatic. Abantu bangase baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde bahlaselwe yisifo somdlavuza. Umdlavuza wesibeletho ungase ube nokuphindaphinda okude ezindaweni ezifana nesibindi, amathambo noma ubuchopho. Yikuphi ukuphindaphinda okude okubhekwa njengomdlavuza webele we-metastatic.
Njengoba ukuphinda kuphazamise abantu abaningi, ake sisebenzise isibonelo. Uma owesifazane enesifo somdlavuza wesibeletho sesifuba sesibili , futhi ngemva kweminyaka eyisithupha ephindaphinda umdlavuza emgodleni wakhe, isigaba somdlavuza wakhe sizoshintshwa sibe sesiteji sesi-4, noma umdlavuza webele we-metastatic.
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Ngaphambi kokubeka kuhlu izinto ezithile ezingashiywe ukushiywa ngaphandle kokuthi ukhulume nomngane wakho nge-MBC, kubalulekile ukwenza iphuzu elilodwa licace kakhulu. Ngisho noma usengozini ukukhuluma into engaba yingozi, ngaso sonke isikhathi kungcono ukukusho kunokuthi ungasho lutho.
Abantu abanomdlavuza bavame ukuphawula ukuthi abanye babo abaseduze kakhulu kubonakala sengathi bayanyamalala ngemuva kokuxilongwa. Lokhu kuvame kakhulu uma umdlavuza uphuthukile, noma uma uphindela emuva (ubuyela emuva.) Enye yezinkathazo ezinkulu zalabo abaphila nomdlavuza ishiywe yedwa. Qinisekisa ukuthi akunakwenzeka ngothandekayo wakho.
Lokho kusho ukuthi abanye abantu banzima kakhulu ukukhuluma nomuntu onomdlavuza ongelapheki. Mhlawumbe ulahlekelwe umuntu osondelene kakhulu nomdlavuza, noma ubhekene nokuphindaphinda komdlavuza ngokwakho. Uma kunjalo, zama okungenani ukuthi othandekayo wakho azi ukuthi uyabakhathalela, kodwa ngenxa yezimo kudingeka uzidele.
Abantu abanomdlavuza bayaqonda ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka, futhi bangayamukela kalula kakhulu kunokungaqiniseki kokubuza izizathu ezingenzeka zokunyamalala kwakho.
Izinto Ezintathu Okungafanele Zisho Kumuntu Ophethe I-Metastatic Breast Cancer
Uma usho iphuzu lokuthi kungcono kakhulu ukusho okuthile ngisho noma usengozini ukukhuluma enye yezinto esizokhuluma ngazo manje, ake sikhulume ngemibono engaba yingozi kumthandekayo wakho ngomdlavuza webele we-metastatic. Kubalulekile ukuthi ubuke ngokucophelela lezi zimvo ngoba azibonakali njalo kumuntu ongazange ahlangabezane nomdlavuza ophakeme. Ukulandela lawa "ungasho" ukuphawula sizosikisela izindlela ezimbalwa ekuphawuleni.
1. Ungasho ukuthi: "Uyokwenzakala Nini Ngokwelapha?"
Kungokwemvelo ukubuza imibuzo. Eqinisweni, akubuze imibuzo isibonakaliso sokuthi unesithakazelo empilweni yomuntu, uphawu olukhathalelayo? Kungase kubonakale sengathi ukubuza mayelana nokuphela kokwelapha umdlavuza webele kungaba uhlobo lokukhuthazwa, kusize umngane wakho ukuba acabange isikhathi esithokozile.
Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi abanokwelashwa komdlavuza webele we-metastatic akukaze kwenziwe. Noma kunalokho, ukwelashwa kuyaqhubeka kuze kube yilapho benquma ukuthi asisekho inzuzo engaba khona yokwelashwa okudlula izingozi; isikhathi lapho bakhetha ukuyeka ukwelashwa futhi mhlawumbe ukhethe ukunakekelwa okusekelayo kuphela noma ukunakekelwa esibhedlela.
Ukwelashwa okuqhubekayo kwakungeyona inketho kubantu abanomdlavuza wesifuba, ongenza kube njengokungathi kunamathuba okuthola ukwelashwa uma othile ethola ukwelashwa. Ngokujabulisayo, kunamanje ukwelashwa komdlavuza webele wesifuba ongathuthukisa impilo. Ngokwehla, akusikho ukuphela okucacile kulezi zindlela zokwelapha, futhi ngokuvamile ziqhubeka uma nje ziqhubeka ukusebenza. Ngamanye amazwi, isikhathi esiningi ukwelashwa komdlavuza wesifuba we-metastatic kunqanyelwe ngoba akusasebenzi noma kubangela imiphumela emibi engasakwazi ukubekezelela.
Kunezinhlobo eziningi kulokhu "ungasho" ukuphawula. Isibonelo, imibono enjengokuthi "Ngeke ujabule uma usuqedile ngemithi?" kungaba buhlungu njengoba umngane wakho onomdlavuza wesifu angase acabange, "Hmm, usho ukuthi uma ngifile?"
Ngezindlela eziningi, ukwelashwa komdlavuza webele ophakeme kunjengezinye zezifo ezingapheli, ezifana nesifo senhliziyo. Lesi simo asihambanga nekwelashwa kodwa singagcinwa ngaso sonke isikhashana.
Buza Kunalokho : "Ngumuphi ukwelashwa owamukela manje?" noma "Uzizwa kanjani ngezokwelapha?"
Ungesabi ukubuza mayelana nokwelapha. Abantu abane-MBC bajwayele ukubuzwa ngemithi yabo futhi bangalindeli abangane babo ukuba baqonde izinhlobo zokwelapha ezitholakalayo noma imigomo yokwelashwa nge-MBC.
2. Ungasho ukuthi: "Kumele kube khona ukwelashwa"
Lawa mazwana ajwayelekile kakhulu, futhi lokhu akumangazi njengoba kusekelwe enkolelweni ejwayelekile. Ucwaningo olulodwa lwathola ukuthi iningi labantu bakholelwa ukuthi kwakukhona ukwelashwa ngisho nomdlavuza wesifuba wezinyosi.
Iqiniso liwukuthi ukusinda okuphakathi (isikhathi esilandelayo lapho isigamu sabantu sisaphila futhi isigamu sidlulile) umdlavuza wesifuba we-metastatic umane uneminyaka emithathu kuphela. Kukhona abantu abathile abasinde isikhathi eside abanomdlavuza webele wesigaba 4, abaphila iminyaka eyishumi noma ngaphezulu, kodwa lokhu kuhlukile kunomthetho, okwenzeka ezingaphansi kwamaphesenti amahlanu abesifazane.
Iqiniso lokuthi umdlavuza webele usathatha ukuphila kungase kusimangaze abanye abantu, kunikezwe inani lombukiso obomvana ngaphandle lapho. Ngenani labesifazane abasindile kanye nokuhlanganyela emidlalweni, kungaba lula ukungaqapheli ukuthi abantu basalokhu behluleka isifo. Kodwa-ke, ngenkathi ukwelashwa komdlavuza wesifuba we-esiteji sekuqala ukuthuthukisa, lezo zezinyathelo eziphambili azizange zishintshe ngokushesha. (Nakuba isikhathi sokuphila esiphezulu se-MBC sesiphindwe kabili ngaphezu kweminyaka eyishumi edlule.)
Ukuhluka kombuzo ovame ukubuzwa kubantu abaphindaphindiwe "Kungani umsebenzi wakho wezokwelapha ungakapheli isikhathi?" Noma kubi nakakhulu, "Udadewethu ube nesiteji esifanayo somdlavuza webele njengoba wenza kanjalo futhi ulungile." Ngendlela efanele, amazwana afana nalokhu angase amemezele kumngane wakho ukuthi awuqondi umlando wemvelo womdlavuza webele. Kodwa ngokungahambi kahle, yena (noma yena) angase abe nomuzwa wokuthi usuke wenza okuthile okungalungile ukuze ukwelashwa kwakhe kungasebenzi ekuvimbeleni ukuphindaphindiwe.
Esikhundleni salokho Bathi : "Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi ukwesaba ngezikhathi ezithile nazo zonke ozibhekene nazo. Uma udinga ukukhuluma nomuntu obala, ngilapha."
3. Ungasho ukuthi: "Kumele Uhlale Uhlala Uhle"
Ngenkathi ngokujwayelekile ikhwalithi yakho yokuphila iyoba ngcono uma uzama ukuhlala ohlangothini oluhle lwezinto, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umuntu onomdlavuza webele we-metastatic ukuveza imizwa yabo emibi , ukwesaba, ukukhungatheka kwabo, nokufutheka kwabo ngesifo okuyinto engacacisi.
Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, akubonwanga ukuthi "ukuhlala okuhle" kuthuthukisa ukusinda, futhi lezi zifundo ziqinisekisa ukuthi abaningi bethu bakubonile. Siyazi ngabantu ababenomqondo omuhle kunoma ubani owake waba nomdlavuza futhi usenqotshwe yisifo. Ngomfanekiso ofanayo, siyazi abantu abanesimo sengqondo esibi kakhulu esiqhubeka senza kahle.
Ukugcina isimo sengqondo esihle ngomdlavuza kungasiza kakhulu, kepha kunokuba ukhulume lawa mazwi, futhi ngokuyinhloko ukubeka isisindo sokuba nomxhwele kumahlombe omngani wakho, cabanga ngalokho ongakwenza-izenzo zakho-ezingabangela imizwa emihle umngani wakho. Lezo zenzo kungenzeka nje zivumele umngane wakho azi ukuthi akudingeki ukuthi abe njalo enkampanini yakho. Angaba yiqiniso.
Esikhundleni salokho Bathi : "Ngiyazi ukuthi umdlavuza uyasondela. Noma kunini lapho ufuna ukuveza ukukhathazeka kwakho ngaphandle kokwahlulela, ngilapha."
Kukhona futhi ongakwenza. Ngaphezu kwazo zonke izindlela ezimbi ukuthi umdlavuza uphathelene nempilo yethu, kunezici ezinhle. Ucwaningo luqala ukusitshela ukuthi umdlavuza ushintsha abantu ngezindlela ezinhle futhi . Uma umngane wakho ebonakala phansi, bona ukuthi zikhona yini lezi zindlela ezinhle azishintshile ongamkhomba zona, noma ukumsiza ukuba abuke izinto zokugcina zesiliva empilweni yakhe (noma yakhe).
4. Ungasho ukuthi: "Unamandla futhi uzokushaya lokhu"
Okungathi ukutshela othile ukuthi kunomsindo onamandla njengokuthi kungaba yisikhuthazo, empilweni yangempela, kungenza okuphambene nalokhu. Uyazi ngempela ukuthi umngane wakho angamshaya umdlavuza wakhe? Uqinisekile ukuthi uzoba ngamaphesenti angaphansi kwayisishiyagalolunye abantu abasinde isikhathi eside somdlavuza webele webele?
Abanye besifazane (nabesilisa) banganaki nje lokho okushiwo, kepha kwabanye, la mazwi afana ne-plug egcina ukuvimba konke ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka kwabo. Abafuni ukudumaza abanye ngokungabonakali abaqinile, futhi bangazizwa benecala futhi bebekwe icala uma umdlavuza wabo uqhubeka.
Kukhona ukuhlukahluka okuningi kulokhu okuphawula, njengokuthi "Qhubeka ulwa." Ukuphawula okufana nalokhu kusho ukuthini uma umngane wakho ekhetha ukumisa ukwelashwa okubangela imiphumela emibi kakhulu kunalokho okufanelekile? Ukuthi uyayeka? Ukuthi akafuni ukuhlala?
Ungakhathazeki uma wenze imibono enjengalezi. Ngaphandle kokuthi uhlale nomdlavuza ophakeme, cishe awucabangi ukuthi lezi zimvo zizwakala kanjani ngaphesheya. Umngani wakho, noma ngabe uthola lokho okuphazamisayo, mhlawumbe wathi izinto ezifanayo kwabanye esikhathini esidlule ngaphambi kokuba aphile nomdlavuza we-metastatic ngokwakhe (noma yena.) Abangane bethu ne-MBC abadingi ukuba sibe abaphelele. Kungcono ukubeka amazwana njengokuthi "Qhubeka ulwa" kunokuba ungasho lutho kumngane wakho.
Esikhundleni salokho Bathi : "Usuyi-trooper ngempela kulokhu konke."
5. Ungasho ukuthi: "Ingabe Wayephuza?"
Umdlavuza wesibeletho uvame ukusabalalisa (imetastasizes) emaphashini. Uma kunjalo, akuyona umdlavuza wamaphaphu, kodwa kunalokho "imethrenti yesifo somdlavuza wamathumbu emaphashini." Yebo noma ngabe umdlavuza wamaphaphu, la mazwi akufanele akhulume.
Lesi sibonelo ithuba elihle lokukhuluma ngomdlavuza we-metastatic ezinye. Uma umngane wakho enesifo somdlavuza webele esifana nesibindi sakhe noma ubuchopho bakhe akuyona umdlavuza wesibindi noma umdlavuza womqondo. Uma wenza i-biopsy yomdlavuza wesifuba isakaze esibindi, uzothola amangqamuzana omdlavuza webele wesifo esibelethweni, hhayi amangqamuzana wesifo somdlavuza. Lokhu kuzobizwa ngokuthi "isifo somdlavuza webele wesibindi esibindi."
Uma umdlavuza womngane wakho usakazeka kumaphaphu akhe, ungabuzi ngokubhema, kodwa kubalulekile ukugwema ukukhuluma nganoma yiziphi izinkinga ezingenzeka. Akekho ofanele umdlavuza. Imibuzo kanye nokuphawula okunjengokuthi "Ingabe uncelise izingane zakho?" noma "Ingabe umdlavuza webele ungijima emndenini wakho?" noma "Ngicabanga ukuthi udla ukudla okuphilayo!" kufanele kushiywe izingxoxo nalabo abangabhekene nomdlavuza. Umngane wakho udinga ukuthi umane umsekele (noma yena), hhayi ukuzama ukuthola ukuthi yini eyenza ukuthi (noma) umdlavuza noma yiziphi izici ezingozini zomdlavuza webele . Uma ucabanga ngakho, le mibuzo ivame ukucelwa isizathu esithile; uma umngane wakho enengcupheni yokuthi awunayo, mhlawumbe uphephile. Kodwa noma ubani angaba nomdlavuza.
Akekho ofanele umdlavuza. Ukubuza le mibuzo kungenza umuntu ophila nomdlavuza abe nomuzwa wokuthi ubangela isifo sakhe-njengabafanelwe. Lokho okuphambene nalokho ofuna ukukwenza ekusekeleni umngane wakho.
Esikhundleni salokho Yisho : "Ngiyamangala ngokuthi uzikhathalela kanjani," noma, uma othile ozungezile enza enye yalezi zizwana, "Akekho umuntu ofanele ukuba nomdlavuza."
6. Ungasho ukuthi: "Ngiyifunda Mayelana Nezokwelashwa ..." noma "Udinga ..."
Esinye seziphakamiso ezivame kakhulu abantu abanomdlavuza abathola iseluleko esingacelwa ukuthi bangaphatha kanjani isifo sabo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yindlela yokwelapha yakamuva ye- homeopathic yomdlavuza , ukudla okungahle kunciphise ingozi yokuthola umdlavuza, noma ukwelashwa kwamuva okufundayo, zama ukugwema ukusikisela ngokuqinile kumngane wakho. Okufanayo kuya izincomo mayelana nokunakekelwa kwabo. Uma umzala wakho wesibili umakhelwane wakho engumakhelwane ehlukumeza isazi somdlavuza webele, ungase ucabange ukucabanga isikhashana ngaphambi kokumisela umngane wakho ngokufanayo ukuthi abone lochwepheshe.
Kunezizathu ezimbili zokuqapha ngezimpendulo ezifana nalezi. Enye ukuthi ukuphawula okunjengalezi kungangeza umthwalo kumuntu osevele elayishwe ngezinqumo zokwenza kanye nohlu olwenyuka kakhulu. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, zama ukugwema noma yikuphi ukuphawula okufaka imishwana ethi "kufanele ..." "udinga ..." noma "kufanele u ..." Umngani wakho usevele unenkinga enkulu empilweni yakhe futhi udinga abantu umsize amenzele uhlu, hhayi ukungeza kuso.
Esinye isizathu ukuthi eziningi zalezi ziphakamiso zihlangene nokuqhathaniswa. "Udadewethu kamalume wahamba waya eMitholampilo yaseMayo wathi ngeke ahambe nakwezinye izindawo." Ukufaniswa ngezinye izikhathi akusebenzi nje ukubeka othile phansi, kodwa baqala ukugxila kumngani wakho-okudingeka uyisekele.
Kunalokho uthi : "Kuzwakala sengathi ukhethe iqembu elikhulu ukuphatha umdlavuza wakho."
Uma ufisa sengathi unganikeza iseluleko sakho, mhlawumbe uthi, "Uma uthanda ukuthi ngibheke noma yini kuwe, vele uthi leli gama." Ukuphela kwengxoxo.
7. Ungasho "" Awujabuli yini ukuthi unesifo somdlavuza wesisu kunomunye umdlavuza? "
Okumangalisa ukuthi la mazwana akhulunywa kaningi. Mhlawumbe izibhamu ezibomvu ezihlobisa konke okuvela emanzini amathoyizi kuya emanzini amathanga enza abantu bacabange ukuthi ukugula nokufa emdlalweni webelevuza kuyinto eyedlule. Nakuba izibhamu ezibomvu ziye zasiza ukuqwashisa ngesifo somdlavuza webele, ngokuvamile abaningi abaphila nomdlavuza webele we-metastatic bazizwa behlukile.
Abantu abaningi abane-MBC bazizwa bebuhlungu kakhulu phakathi ne-Pinktober. Laba bantu abanomdlavuza webele we-metastatic bangakutshela ukuthi kunesizungu kangakanani ukuthi ube nomdlavuza wesifuba wezinyosi olwandle oluseningizimu. Abanye abantu abane-MBC baye baxoshwa ngisho nakwamanye amaqembu okusekela-labo abanesifo somdlavuza webele wesandulela-ngculazi baye bakuthola futhi becindezelekile ukuba babe eduze nomuntu ozofa ngempela ngesifo. Ngokujabulisayo, kukhona manje amaqembu okusekela afana ne- METAvivor , ahlinzeka ngemali kulabo abahlala ne-MBC.
Kukhona ukuhluka kwala mazwana nakho okulimazayo. Isibonelo, ukuphawula okwenziwe ngezinye izikhathi, "Kungaba nzima nakakhulu, awudingi amabele akho." Akukho mdlavuza omuhle. Akunandaba ukuthi ingumdlavuza webele noma i-melanoma, isigaba sokuqala noma isigaba sekwephuzile, esingaphathwa kahle, noma cha. Umngani wakho angcono neze angabheki nomdlavuza nhlobo.
Kunalokho uthi : "Ngizwile ukuthi abantu abanomdlavuza webele we-metastatic ngokuvamile bazizwa bekhohliwe emnyangweni webelevuza webele. Kungani ungitshele ukuthi lokho kuzwa kanjani, nokuthi yini engingayenza ukusiza ukwenza umehluko."
8. Ungasho ukuthi: "Ngibize Uma Ungidinga"
Ini? Akufanele yini unikeze usizo lwakho nokusekela kumuntu ophila nomdlavuza we-metastatic? Akusiniki usizo lwethu into enothando kakhulu esingayenza kubangane bethu ababhekene ne-MBC?
Akusilo ukunikezwa kosizo okungalungile kulesi sitatimende, kungu-qualification: "Uma udinga mina."
Uma ucela othile ukuthi akubize uma badinga usizo ubeka umthwalo wokubiza nokucela usizo kubo. Abantu abaningi abanomdlavuza besaba ukuthi bangumthwalo. Ngisho noma badinga kakhulu usizo, bangase banqikaze ukubiza. Kungcono ukusho ukuthi ufuna ukuza uphinde usize futhi ubuze ukuthi yini engcono kakhulu nokuthi yini (noma yena) angathanda ukuthi ukwenze.
Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokwenza isinqumo sendlela umngane angasiza ngayo kunzima. Kunezinqumo eziningi kakhulu okumelwe zenziwe ngaso sonke isikhathi nge-MBC, futhi ngisho nokuza nemibono yokuthi ungayisiza kanjani kungase kuzwe ukukhipha. Esikhundleni salokho, ukunikela ukusiza ngomsebenzi othile kungaba isipho esingcono kakhulu ongayenza.
Esikhundleni Sithi : "Singakwazi yini ukuza ngoMgqibelo bese sivale indlu yakho?"
9. Ungasho ukuthi: "Ngiyaqonda"
Amazwana "Ngiyaqonda" asetshenziselwa kakhulu lapho ekhuluma nabantu abanomdlavuza. Inkinga ngalokhu kuphawula ukuthi akekho owazi ukuqonda. Ngisho noma unesimo esifanayo nesigaba somdlavuza, ingabe uneminyaka efanayo, unabantwana oneminyaka efanayo futhi uhlala emakhaya afanayo, awukwazi ukuqonda.
Ukuhluka kwalokhu kuphawula kusho ukuthi uyaqonda ngoba umama wakho, noma umama noma umakhelwane wakho olandelayo unesifo esifanayo. Kuyamangalisa ukuthi zingaki izindaba umuntu azizwa ngabanye ngomdlavuza ngemuva kokuthola ukuhlolwa kwabo. Kodwa-ke umngane wakho ufuna ukuthi umzwe futhi umlalele, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izindaba zakho ngabanye zikhuthazeka kangakanani.
Ukuphila nomdlavuza kuhluke kumuntu ngamunye. Abanye abasinda komdlavuza babelane ngaleminye yalezi zihloko kulokhu okushiwo ukuthi kunjani ngempela ukuhlala nomdlavuza . Ingxenye yokuthi awukwazi ukuqonda, ukuthi ngisho nalabo abaphila nomdlavuza abaqondi ukuthi bazizwa kanjani isikhathi esiningi. Ezinsukwini lapho konke kuhamba kahle, noma bezwa izindaba ezimbi embikweni wokucabanga, bangase bazizwe bejabule. Ngokuphambene nalokho, umuntu onama-MBC angase azizwe phansi ngezikhathi ongayithwebula ngazo ukuba ujabule kakhulu. Akekho ongaqonda, kodwa singacela futhi singalalela.
Esikhundleni Sathi : "Angizi ukuthi uyaphi, kepha nginguwe."
10. Ungasho ukuthi: "Awubheke Ugulayo"
Lona omunye "musa-hhayi-okushoyo" okungaba okungaqondakali. Ngeke yini kube kuhle ukuveza ukuthi umngane wakho ubheka kanjani okuhle?
Akuwona ukuphawula "awubuki ugula" okungaba yingozi, kodwa kunalokho incazelo ephakama phakathi kwamazwi.
Siyazi ukuthi umdlavuza webele ushukumisa isithombe somzimba ngezindlela eziningi. Ukuphawula indlela umngane wakho abukeka ngayo kuletha ukuzwa ngaleyo ndlela ngezinye izikhathi. Kodwa enye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke mayelana nalokhu kuphawula yilokho okungalandela engqondweni yomngani wakho. Njengoba eyazi ukuthi unomdlavuza ongelapheki, lokhu kuphawula kungase kube isikhumbuzo kuye ukuthi ngolunye usuku uzobukeka egula.
Esikhathini esingajulile, ukubhekana nomdlavuza we-metastatic kunendlela yokusiza abantu ukuthi babone okubaluleke kakhulu empilweni. Okuyisisekelo kunenani eliphansi, kanti ingcebo efihliwe, njengokuhawukela kubaluleke kakhulu.
Esikhundleni salokho, thola indlela yokumncoma ngalokho akubheka ngakho manje kunokuthi "ubukeka." Isibonelo, izwi mayelana nobubele bakhe, ububele bakhe, noma uthando lwakhe kwabanye. Uma ufuna imibono ethile, hlola ukuthi iziphi izifundo ezitshele ukuthi umdlavuza ungashintsha kanjani abantu ngezindlela ezinhle nezindlela ezinhle .
Uthi: "Angazi ukuthi ngikusho ukuthini"
Uma unzima ukuthola ukuthi ungathini kumngane wakho, mane umtshele lokho. Menze azi ukuthi awukwazi ukuthi kufanele uthini. Uyakwazisa ukwethembeka ngaphezu kwakho.
Ngezansi kulokho ongakushoyo futhi Ungabi Nokho Kusho Omunye nge-MBC
Uma ungumuntu, kungenzeka ukuthi utshele enye yalezizinto ukuthi ungasho izinto kumthandi wakho ngomdlavuza. Ungakhathazeki. Ungumuntu! Abantu abahlala ne-MBC bayazi ukuthi unesimo lapho ungawazi ukuthi ungathini. Kungenzeka ukuthi, bebelokhu bekhona lapho esikhathini esedlule futhi bakhulume lokho okushiwo manje abakuthola ukuzwa.
Ungavumeli ukwesaba ukusho into engalungile kugcine ungasho lutho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umngane wakho uyazi ukuthi awuhambi.
Ingabe uyazibuza ukuthi yini enye okufanele uyenze ekusekeleni umngane wakho onayo i-MBC? Hlola lolu hlu oluncane lwezindlela ezingu- 15 ongasisekela othandekayo ngomdlavuza .
> Imithombo:
> Society of American of Clinical Oncology. I-Cancer.Net. Ukubhekana nomdlavuza weMetastatic. Kubuyekezwe 01/16. http://www.cancer.net/coping-with-cancer/managing-emotions/coping-with-metastatic-cancer