Izinkolelo zomuntu zihlala ziyinhloko yokuzikhandla
Ukuthola izindaba ukuthi unesandulela ngculazi kungaba yisikhathi esinzima kwabanye, ngezici zengqondo zesifo esithwala isisindo esiningi njengezinto ezibonakalayo. Ekugcineni, i-HIV ithinta wonke umzimba-ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangokomoya-futhi ngokuvamile iphoqa umuntu ukuba ahlole ukuthi bangubani njengomuntu nalokho abakholelwayo.
Inkolo nengokomoya kubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yabantu abaningi futhi, uma ubhekene nokutheleleka ngegciwane lesandulela ngculaza, kunganikeza umuntu osanda kutholakala izindlela zokwenza noma ukuhlangabezana nesifo sakhe.
Inkolo vs. Spiritualality
Ngezinye izikhathi inkolo nengokomoya kuyasetshenziswa ngokungafaniyo kodwa, ezimweni eziningi, abantu bazohlukanisa inkolelo engokomoya enkolelweni enqunywe "inkolo ehleliwe."
Abanye abantu bathanda ukuchaza "ingokomoya" njengendlela yokuxhumanisa okwedlule kuze kube manje, besebenzisa izinkolelo nezindinganiso zokuziphatha zokhokho babo ukuqondisa izinkolelo zabo siqu. Lesi sikole sokucabangela sisho ukuthi izenzo zanamuhla zisekelwe kwizifundo ezitholwe esikhathini esidlule. Ngale ndlela, ingokomoya livame ukuba lihlukile kumuntu ngamunye.
Ngokuphambene, "inkolo" ingachazwa kabanzi ngokuthi uxhumano kumandla aphezulu noma inhlangano. Izikhungo zenkolo ngokuyinhloko zikhulekela inhlangano kaNkulunkulu (noma izinhlangano) ngendlela echazwe, noma ehlotshisiwe. Umqondo wokukhulekela uvame ukuba phakathi kwazo zonke izinkolo, ngokuhlukahluka endleleni umuntu athandaza ngayo, azindle, noma ahlose-kungaba ebandleni noma yedwa.
Ukufuna Isiqondiso Ngenkinga Ye-HIV
Abantu bavame ukufuna isiqondiso senkolo noma esingokomoya emva kokuthola isandulela ngculazi uma nje bephendula impendulo yokuthi "kungani" lokho kuvame ukuyingxenye yenkulumo engaphakathi. Ingawaxhumanisa nasezinkolelweni ezijulile zokuziphatha noma zokuziphatha ezinikeza izimpendulo isayensi yezokwelapha ayikwazi.
Kunganikeza umuntu izindlela zokuhlola imibuzo yendawo yonke mayelana nokukhona, kufaka phakathi:
- Kungani mina? Kungani ngithole ukutheleleka?
- Iyini injongo yami ekuphileni? Ingabe ihlukile manje ukuthi ngine-HIV?
- Kuthiwani ngabantu abazungezile? Isifo sami siyongitshela ngani ngobuhlobo bami?
- Nginomuzwa wecala, uhlazo, noma ukuhlupheka? Uma kunjalo, ngani? Yini engingayenza ukuze ngixazulule lokhu?
- Ingabe ukutheleleka kwami kungaba indlela yokuthola ukukhanya okuphakeme?
- Ingabe kufanele ngidele izinto ngenxa ye-HIV? Futhi, okubaluleke nakakhulu, ngingakwazi?
- Ngizizwa kanjani ngokuphila? Mayelana nokufa?
Indima Yenkolo & Imvelo nge-HIV
Ngisho phakathi kwalabo abakhuthele ekukhulekeleni inkolo (kanengi ngenxa yehlazo, ubandlululo kanye nokubandlululwa okuhambisana nemithetho ethile), isidingo sesiqondiso esingokomoya singahlala siqinile. Ngisho ngaphansi kokwakha "ukuzisiza" noma "ukudala" ukukhanyiselwa, abaholi abangokomoya banganikeza abantu abane-HIV ngendlela ehambisana ne-HIV yokuthuthukisa inhlalakahle yabo enhle ngokomzwelo, imigomo engabandakanya:
- Ukuthuthukisa uhlelo lokuphila ngobubele
- Ukukhuthaza ukucabanga komuntu siqu nokuzicabangela
- Ukwamukela ngokwengeziwe nokuthula kwangaphakathi
- Ukukhuthaza ukucabanga okuhle
- Ukunciphisa i-HIV empilweni yomuntu
- Ukusungula i-HIV njengengxenye yokuzikhethela kunokuba uqobo
Amasonto nezinhlangano ezingokomoya zimelele ngokukhethekile ukuhlinzeka lezi zinto. Ziyisihluthulelo sokwakhiwa kwamagugu ezenhlalakahle futhi zinekhono lokuthonya umbono womphakathi. Kusukela ekubukeni kokusebenza, abaningi baye baqondisa imithombo yokusiza nge-HIV, ukunakekelwa, kanye nokwelapha isikhathi eside, ngenkathi bekhulisa ukuqwashisa umphakathi kanye nokwamukelwa komphakathi. Ngisho nesenzo sokuthandazela umuntu one-HIV singanikeza lowo muntu umbono wokusekela okungase ulahleke empilweni yakhe.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunezikhathi lapho imfundiso yenkolo ingabangela izithiyo zokuvimbela igciwane lesandulela ngculaza nokunakekelwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kusekela ukufundisa okuzithiyo kuphela , ukuhlelwa komndeni okuphikisanayo noma ukukhipha izisu, noma ukudembula abantu abasengozini (isib. Ubungqingili , ukujova abasebenzisi bezidakamizwa , kanye abesifazane nabasha abathatha ucansi).
Izinkolelo ezinjalo ezinyanyekayo zingabhubhisa ikakhulukazi labo abakhuliswa enkolweni ethile, hhayi nje ukuqinisa imizwa yecala nokuhlazeka, kodwa ukwengeza ekuhlukaniseni umuntu osanduliwe angathola.
Indlela Abahlinzeki Bezokwelapha Nezingane Abanakekeli Bangasiza Ngayo
Kubalulekile ukuthi abahlinzeki bezokwelapha nabanakekeli baqonde ukubaluleka kwenkolo kanye nokuphila kwabantu abaningi baphile futhi bangahluleli noma bachithe imibono abangayithola engabalulekile noma ngokuphikisana nezinkolelo zabo.
Ngokuzibandakanya ngomuntu ekuxoxweni ngezinkolelo zakhe, ukhuthaza ukusebenzisana ezingeni lomzwelo futhi uyakwazi ukubhekana nemizwa engaphazamisa ikhono lomuntu lokuzilawula ngokwakhe.
Kodwa-ke, lapho izinkolelo zenkolo noma ezingokwenyama zingamvimbeli umuntu ekunakekeleni noma ekwelapheni angase adinge, zama ukuhlasela izinkolelo zakhe. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abantu baqonde imiphumela yezenzo zabo futhi bakwazi ukuzakhela izinqumo zabo ngokusekelwe kolwazi olungenakulinganiswa nolungakhethi. Ukuhlanganyela empini yezinkolelo akukwenzi okuncane ukufeza lokho.
Uma izenzo zomuntu zilimaza ngempela, cabanga ngokuletha umeluleki wakhe ongokomoya ukuxoxa ngale ndaba ndawonye njengeqembu. Ngokuvamile, izinkolelo zenkolo zomuntu azikho ngokujulile ngokusekelwe emfundisweni njengokuhumusha kwalowo mfundiso, ehlanjululwe ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe, ukukhathazeka, nokwesaba. Ukusebenza kanye nabeluleki abangokomoya noma benkolo ngezinye izikhathi bangasiza ukunqoba izithiyo ezinjalo.
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