Ubulili Ngokwemlomo Ngesikhathi Sokuthi "Ubungqingili Bezobuchwepheshe"
Ngesikhathi ngikhuluma neqembu labasha abasanda kuzalwa, ngezwa igama elisha ngokuphelele kimi. Abaningi bakhuluma ngokuthi babe "nabangane abanezinzuzo". Ukuba ubaba onamazwe amantombazane amathathu asebasha, kwakudingeka ngibuze ukuthi lokho kwakusho ukuthini ngempela. Ngemva kwalokho ngashaqeka ukuthola ukuthi intsha eningi eneminyaka engu-14 kuya kwengu-18 yayikhulisa lolu hlobo olusha lobuhlobo bobulili kuphela.
Namuhla, abafana namantombazane amaningi "ukubheka" ngocansi abazicabangi ukuthi bangenalo ukuphola noma ebuhlotsheni obuseduze. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile babheka ucansi ngomlomo ngandlela-thile ukuthi "bayamukeleka" ebuhlotsheni obungathandabuzeki-ikakhulukazi, ukuthi abanye bazicabangela ukuthi "bangamantombazane" emva kokuhlanganyela ocansini ngomlomo.
Ucwaningo olusanda kushicilelwa kuyi- Journal of Pediatric Psychology luhlolisise iqembu lama-graders angu-10 mayelana nemicabango nemicabango yabo ngezocansi. Iqiniso lokuthi intsha e-grade 10 yayisemsebenzini wezocansi ayizange imangaze kakhulu. Okumangalisa ukuthi inhlolovo eyatholwa intsha yayinezocansi ngomlomo kaningi kunokuba ubulili kanye nabalingani abaningi. Iningi eliphazamisayo ukuthi iningi lalabo abasha abacwaningisisiwe bathi abazange basebenzise ikhondomu ngesikhathi socansi ngomlomo .
Izingosi Zithonya Ukuziphatha Ngocansi Kwabaningi
Ukucindezela kontanga kuyithonya elinamandla ekuphileni komuntu osemusha. Kodwa lokho kuyisici esisodwa esinqumweni sentsha sokuhlanganyela ekuziphatheni ngokobulili.
Izizathu zifaka:
- Intsha ifuna ukuthandwa phakathi kontanga. Intsha iyakholelwa ukuthi uma ihlanganyela ocansini, ngomlomo noma ngokocansi bayobukwa njengothandwa kakhulu. Izifundo zibonisa okuphambene nalokho. Nakuba zingabhekwa njenge "ethandwayo" labo abasha abathintekayo ngokocansi abangaphephile abajabuli kahle phakathi kontanga yabo.
- Intsha ivame ukukholelwa ukuthi ukulala ngomlomo kuyindlela evikelekile yokulala, kokubili kokukhulelwa nezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi. Izibalo zifakazela ngenye indlela. Izigidi zentsha zithole igciwane lesifo se-STD ezifana ne- chlamydia , i- gonorrhea , i- HIV , ne- herpes unyaka ngamunye kanye nobulili ngomlomo ngumzila lapho intsha isifo.
Yiziphi Izingozi Zezocansi Zomlomo?
Ukuthintana ngokocansi ngomlomo
Ingozi yemvelo: Ukwenza ucansi lomlomo noma "ukuphazamisa umsebenzi" kuthatha ingozi yokudlulisela umlingani owemukelayo ngoba isandulela-ngculazi esandulelekile ("pre-cum") noma umuthi (cum) ungangena emlonyeni. Noma yiziphi izilonda ezivulekile, izilonda ezibandayo, njll kungaba umzila lapho igciwane noma amabhaktheriya angangena egazini bese ethelela. Kumlingani ofaka isandla, kunengozi yokutheleleka ngenxa yokuthi igazi elithathelwanayo kusuka kumagundane okhipha umlingani noma i-sore evulekile lingathintana ne-scratch, cut, noma sore epenis.
Ingozi ebhalwe phansi: Nakuba ingozi kaningi izikhathi ezincane kunezocansi zangasese noma zangasese, i-HIV isetshenziselwe abalingani abamukelayo ngezocansi zomlomo ("umsebenzi wokushaya"), ngisho nalapho kwenzeka ukuthi abalingani abafake isandla bangeneli (cum).
Ukuthintana Ngokwemlomo Ngokwemlomo
Ingozi yezinkolelo - Ukwenza ucansi lomlomo kumuntu wesifazane kuthatha ingozi yemvelo yokudlulisela i-HIV kumlingani ofaka isandla (umuntu othungela noma ophuza indawo yangasese) ngoba uketshezi lwamagciwane nesisu kungenwa emlonyeni.
(Lokhu kuhlanganisa, kodwa akukhawulelwanga, igazi lokuya esikhathini). Ngokufanayo, kukhona ingozi yemfundiso yokudlulisela i-HIV ngesikhathi socansi ngomlomo kumlingani owemukelayo (umuntu ophethe igciwane lakhe eliphuzayo noma elincelisiwe) uma igazi elilwelwe emilonyeni yomlomo noma izinsini eziphuma egazini lihlangana no-vulvar noma ukusika noma izilonda.
Ingozi eqoshiwe - Ingozi yokudluliselwa nge-HIV ngesikhathi socansi ngomlomo iphansi uma kuqhathaniswa nobulili besifazane nesilwane . Kodwa-ke, kube khona amacala okudluliswa kwegciwane lesandulela ngculazi kanye nezifo ezibangelwa igciwane lesandulela ngculazi ngenxa yocansi lomlomo ngomlomo.
Amathiphu Kwabancane
- Ubulili bomlomo bubeka ingozi kokutheleleka nge-HIV kanye nezinye izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi .
- Khumbula ukuthi i-HIV namanye ama-STD kukhona kuze kube phakade, okusho ukuthi abakwazi ukwelashwa.
- Ngenkathi ungase ubonakale udume kakhulu, ukulala ocansini okungavumelekile kungakwenzi uthanda kakhulu phakathi kontanga yakho. Empeleni, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abantu abanjengawe futhi bakuhlonipha uma unecansi lomlomo ongakhuselekanga.
- Ngesikhathi socansi lomlomo, bobabili umfana nentombazane basengozini yalesi sifo.
- Ukuthola idumela lokuba "ukuziphatha kabi", "slutty", noma "lula" kuzohlala nawe isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuthi isikole esiphakeme sesiphelile.
- Uma ungeke ukhulume nomzali ngezocansi zomlomo, khuluma nomeluleki wesikole sakho, uthisha oyithandayo noma udokotela wakho womndeni.
Amathiphu Abazali Nabacebisi
- Ukucindezela izingozi zokulalana ngomlomo kwabafana namantombazane.
- Benze baqaphele ukuthi ukuthandwa akusho ukuthi bathandwa kahle.
- Bakhathazeke ngokuthi bangafika kuwe futhi baxoxe nganoma yini, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungakhathazeki kanjani.
- Yazi ukuthi ingane yakho yenzani, ukuthi iyaphi, nokuthi izoba nobani.
Funda kabanzi mayelana nesigameko ngasinye Ingozi ye-HIV kusuka ocansini yomlomo .
> Imithombo
> Uecker, J .; I-Angotti, N .; futhi Regnerus, M. "Ukuhamba Iningi Lendlela:" Virginity Technical "phakathi Amantombazane American." Ucwaningo lwesayensi yezenhlalakahle. Ngo-Disemba 1, 2008; 37 (4): 1200-1215.