Ingabe Abadala Abazimele Abanazingane?
Ingabe umuntu omdala one-autism angaba ngumzali ophumelelayo? Impendulo yibo yebo, ngaphansi kwezimo ezifanele. Ngenkathi umuntu one- autism esilinganiselwe noma enzima engenakwenzeka ukuba namakhono kumzali wengane, abantu abaningi abane- autism ephezulu esebenzayo sebekulungele, bazimisele futhi bayakwazi ukubhekana nezinselele zokukhulisa izingane. Izici eziningi zokubeletha zinzima kakhulu kumama nabesilisa kumbono.
Kodwa-ke, okunye, kuyiqiniso: kunezindlela ezithile zokubeletha kulula uma u-autistic (ikakhulu uma unabantwana ku-autism spectrum).
Ukusebenza okuphezulu kwe-Autism kanye nobuzali
Ngo-1994, i- Manual Diagnostic and Statistical of Mental Disorders (DSM) yaguqulwa ukuba ifake uhlobo olusha lwe-autism. Ebizwa ngokuthi i- Asperger syndrome , yayihlanganisa nabantu ababengasoze babhekwa njenge-autistic. Ukwengezwa kwe-Asperger syndrome eya kwi-DSM kwashintsha indlela abantu abacabanga ngayo nge-autism.
Abantu abanalolu hlobo oluphezulu lokusebenza nge-autism babehlakaniphile, bakwazi, futhi bavame ukuphumelela. Ngenkathi kungenzeka ukuthi babe nezinkinga ezibalulekile ngezinkinga zengqondo nokukhulumisana kwezenhlalakahle, bakwazi (okungenani isikhathi esithile) ukugqoka, ukunqoba noma ukugwema lezi zinselele. Abantu abaningi abane-Asperger syndrome bashade noma bathola abalingani, kanti abambalwa babenezingane.
Ngenxa yokuthi i-Asperger syndrome ayikho kuze kufike ngo-1994, bambalwa kakhulu kubantu abakhule ngaphambi kwalesi sikhathi bathola noma yini efana ne-autism spectrum diagnosis-okungenani baze babe nezingane ngokwabo.
Khona-ke, ngezinye izikhathi, ngenkathi befuna izingane zabo ukuba zixilongwe, abazali bathola nokuthi nabo baxilongwa ekupheleni okuphezulu kwe-autism spectrum.
Phakathi naleso sikhathi, izingane zazikhulela, eqinisweni, zathola ukuhlolwa kwe-Asperger syndrome njengabancane. Lezi zingane zazikhulile nge-autism spectrum diagnostic futhi zathola imithi yokwelapha ukuze zikwazi ukubhekana nezinselelo zabo.
Kwababantu abathile, i-autism nezinselele zayo zazisendleleni yokukhulisa izingane. Nokho, kwabanye abaningi, akuzange kwenzeke. Futhi-ke, abantu abaningi abane-autism bafuna nje ukuthi yiziphi eziningi zontanga zabo ezijwayelekile ezifunayo: umndeni.
Ngo-2013, i-Asperger syndrome njengesigaba sokuxilonga isuswe ku-DSM . Namuhla, abantu abanezibonakaliso eziphezulu ezibizwa ngokuthi i-Asperger syndrome manje bane-"autism spectrum" yokuxilongwa. Yiqiniso, lokhu akuzange kube nomthelela othile ekufisweni komuntu ukuba abe (noma kungabi) umzali.
Izinganekwane eziphathelene nabazali be-Autistic
Kunezinkolelo eziningi eziningi ezungeze i-autism . Lezi zinganekwane zingenza kube nzima ukuqonda ukuthi umuntu we-autistic angaba kanjani umzali omuhle. Ngenhlanhla, amangakwane, ngencazelo, akuyiqiniso! Nazi ezimbalwa ukungezwani okunjalo mayelana ne-autism:
- Abantu abane-autism abazizwa benemizwelo evamile . Ngenkathi abantu abane-autism bangase babe nokuhluka okuhlukile kwezinye izimo ezithile noma okuhlangenwe nakho kunezinye zontanga zabo ezivamile, ngokuqinisekile bazizwa benjabulo, intukuthelo, ilukuluku, ukukhungatheka, ukuthokoza, uthando, kanye neminye imizwelo .
- Abantu abane-autism abakwazi ukuthanda. Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, lokhu akukona ngokuphelele.
- Abantu abane-autism abakwazi ukuzwelana nabanye . Kwezinye izimo, kungaba nzima kubantu be-autistic ukuzifaka ezicathulweni zomunye umuntu othanda, ozizwayo, noma ophendula ngezindlela ezingaphandle kohlelo lwabo. Kodwa lokhu kuyiqiniso kubo bonke abantu: kunzima ukuzwelana, isibonelo, nengane ofuna ukwenza izinto ongazithandi noma ezingathandi izinto ozithandayo.
- Abantu abane-autism abakwazi ukuxhumana kahle . Abantu abane-autism esebenzayo basebenzisa ulimi olukhulunywayo kanye (noma okungcono kunabo) oontanga abavamile. Kodwa-ke, bangase babe nobunzima "ngokuxhumana nabantu," okusho ukuthi kungadingeka ukuthi basebenze kanzima kunokuthi iningi lenze umqondo womzimba noma izindlela ezicashile zokuxhumana.
Ukuzindla Ngokubeletha Nge-Autism
UJessica Benz waseDalhousie eNew Brunswick, eCanada, unina wezingane ezinhlanu. Wathola ukuxilongwa kwakhe nge-autism ngenxa yokufuna izimpendulo ezinselele zezingane zakhe. Nakhu ukucabanga kwakhe kanye namathiphu ngokukhulisa njengomuntu omdala ku-autism spectrum.
Yini eyakuholela ekutholeni ukuxilongwa kwakho kwe-autism? Uyancoma ukuthi ufuna ukuxilongwa uma ucabanga ukuthi UNGAKHO ukuhlolwa yini?
Ukuxilongwa kwami kwavela njengomuntu omdala ngemuva kokuthola ukuthi izingane zami ezimbili zitholiwe futhi saqala ukuxoxisana nomlando womndeni ngenye yezazi zengqondo esasebenza nabo. Lapho ngichaza okuhlangenwe nakho okunye lapho ingane iguqa ngalokho engibonile ezinganeni zami, i-bulb ekhanyayo yahamba. Ngaqhubeka nokuhlola nokuhlolwa okuvela lapho uma nje ngiziqonda kangcono njengomuntu, futhi njengomzali.
Ngicabanga ukuthi ulwazi oluthe xaxa lungcono njalo, ikakhulukazi ngathi. Uma othile ezwa sengathi i-autism ingase ibe yingxenye yezinto ezizenzekelayo, zifanele ukubuza ngakho futhi zicele ukuhlolwa. Njengoba nje sihlola amalebula okuhlanza imilayezo yokunakekela, ngcono ukuthi siyaqonda ukuthi yini eyenza ukuphila kwethu siqu, kungcono ukuthi singaqiniseka ukuthi sisebenzisa izilungiselelo ezifanele ngokuzondla nokuxhumana nabanye abantu.
Ingabe ukufunda ukuthi wena u-autistic kuthinta isinqumo sakho sokuba (ngaphezulu) izingane? futhi uma kunjalo, wenze kanjani isinqumo?
Ngokuqinisekile, ukwazi ukuthi ngingu-autistic kwakuthintele izinqumo zami, kodwa ngenkathi ngitholwa, sinezingane ezintathu (manje sinezinhlanu). Ngakho akuzange kusenze sabe sesaba nezingane eziningi, kwakusho ukuthi sasiqonda kahle kakhulu izingane esinazo. Ukuba nokuqonda kangcono ukuthi ngizizwa kanjani ngezinye izikhathi, kungani ngicabanga ukuthi ezinye izinto zilula kakhulu kwabanye abantu kunokuba zingangami, futhi ngizizwa sengathi angizange ngikwenze kahle kahle, wanginika amandla okudala ushintsho oluhle ngaphakathi impilo yami ukuba ibe ngumzali ozinikele futhi ozimisele.
Ngikhumbula ngizizwa nginecala lapho omdala wami esemncane ukuthi ngilindele kakhulu ukulala. Ngangizizwa sengathi sekuyisikhathi sokuqala ukuphefumula kusukela evuka ekuseni. Kwakungekhona ukuthi angizange ngikuthande ukubeletha, ngakujabulela kakhulu futhi ngithanda ukuhlola umhlaba naye. Kodwa icala lami engilizwa ngoba ngilindele ngempela ukulala kanye namahora ambalwa ngaphandle kokuba 'ngiye' ngididekile. Ukuqaphela ukuthi ngithola ukuthi amahora ambalwa ngosuku ngesikhatsi esidingekayo sokuzinakekela kwanginika umzali ngaphandle kokukhathala nokushisa engangikuzwe ngaphambilini.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngabona ezinye izinto engangizidingayo ukuze ngizizwe sengathi ngingase ngiphume njengomzali. Ngangihlale ngingumuntu ohlelekile kahle ngokulandela isimiso, ukuhlanza, ukuhlela nokuhlela. Leyo ndlela yokubuyela emuva ekuphileni yayiholela ekucindezelekeni okukhulu lapho ngidinga ukwenza izinto zifezeke ngesikhathi sokuhlela, noma uma kunesidingo esingalindelekile.
Iphuma, ukubeletha kugcwele nje izidingo ezingalindelekile namathayimithebula okungezona ezakho! Nganquma ukuzama ukusebenzisa izinto engangizijwayele ukusekela izingane zami empilweni yami, futhi ngokumangala kwami, izinto zaba lula. Ngenza isimiso sokuphatha indlu, isimiso sokuphatha usuku. Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngizobhala isimiso nsuku zonke ngosuku (ngezingxenye ezibukwayo kanye nezingane ezincane) ngakho sonke singabona ukuthi kwenzekani usuku ngalunye futhi sazi ukuthi singalungiselela kanjani kusengaphambili.
Ukuqaphela nje ukuthi ngifanele ukuzinikeza izinsizakalo ezifanayo engizinika izingane zami zangenza ngazizwa sengathi ngangihlangene nezidingo zami futhi ngibonisa izingane zami ukuthi zikwazi ukwenza okufanayo nabantu abadala nokuphatha izimpilo zabo. Abantu abaningi bazwa igama i-autism futhi babheka umuntu odingayo abanye abantu ukuthi bazise lezo zisekelo.
Kubalulekile kimi ukuthi izingane zami zibone ukuthi ziyakwazi ukuqondisa izimpilo zazo futhi zikhuthaze empilweni yazo ngezidingo zazo. Ukufanisa ukuthi mina ngenye indlela bayakwazi ukujwayela ukuthi yiziphi izinto abavame ukuzwa ngazo ngokuthi 'izidingo ezikhethekile.' Sonke sinesidingo esikhethekile, ngisho nabantu abanesifo se-neurotypical. Sinesibopho sokunika amandla abantwana bethu ukuba baqaphele futhi basekele izidingo zabo siqu.
Manje, kungani sinezingane ezinhlanu? Ngisho, zizwakala, zishaya indiva, ziphikisana, zithandana, kanti omunye uhlale ehlupha omunye umuntu. Nokho, bayakuqonda ngokujulile, basekela ngokugcwele. Ezweni lapho kubonakala kunzima khona ubungane nokuxhumana nabantu, lezi zingane zikhulela kakhulu ekufundeni ukunciphisa nokusebenza ngokubambisana ukuthi zihlomele kahle ukuhlanganyela nezinye izingane. Bayohlala benenethiwekhi yokusekela emndenini emiphakathini yabo abayiqonda ngokuphelele, ngisho noma bengavumelani ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lokhu kubalulekile kithi.
Ingabe ukufunda ukuthi wena u-autistic ushintshe ngendlela oyihlo? Ngokwesibonelo, ingabe unqume ukucela usizo olungaphezulu, shintsha indlela ophendula ngayo 'ukuziphatha okubi' njll?
Kuye kwangenza ngangizimisele ngokwengeziwe, futhi ngiyazi kabanzi. Uye wanginika isikhala sokwamukela ukuthi nami nginezibopho zokuhlangabezana nezidingo zami ukuze ngikwazi kangcono umzali wami izingane zami. Ngiye ngafunda ukuqaphela lapho ngikhathazekile ngaphambi kokuba ngifinyelele esiteji sokuqothula, futhi ngiye ngafunda ukuthatha isikhathi sokuvuselela.
Ngiphinde ngizindle ngobuntwana bami, futhi yeka indlela engangizizwa ngayo lapho ngingeke ngiyeke ukukhala ngento engafanele ibe yinkinga encane, noma lapho ngifika ekhaya ngisuka esikoleni futhi ngisuke ngithukuthele kakhulu ngaphandle kwesizathu. Ngikhumbula ihlazo engangizizwa ngiseyingane ngalezo zinto, futhi ngifuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izingane zami azikaze zizwe lokho. Nganginenhlanhla, futhi ngathola ukwelashwa okufanele futhi ngiphendule ngalezo zinto ngengozi, ngenxa yabazali abangaqonda kahle.
Ngangingakaze ngijeziswe futhi ngangihlale ngithandwa ngokungenangqondo ngalezo zinkinga, nakuba ngangingazi ngaleso sikhathi ukuqubuka. Kodwa ngisakhumbula ngizizwa nginamahloni okungakwazi ukulawula imizwa yami nemizwelo ngendlela wonke umuntu abonakala ekwazi ngayo. Ngangingumfundi oyisibonelo, njalo ngiphakamise ekilasini lami, futhi ngangihlala nginovalo lomuntu othola ukuthi ngakhala ngenxa yokuthi kwakungadingeka ngitshele umngane esitolo.
Ngizama ukusiza izingane zami ziziqonde. Ngifuna bazi ukuthi ngiyaqonda ukuthi kungani into engalindelekile ingahle ilahle usuku lonke nokuthi angibagxeka noma ngizizwa sengathi kufanele bakwazi ukubhekana kangcono. Ukube bengingazi ukuthi ubuchopho bami abuzange buhlele izinto ngendlela wonke umuntu akwenza ngayo, ngicabanga ukuthi ngabe ngabe ngizizwela. Njengomzali, ngifuna ukufundisa izingane zami ukuba zibe nomusa kubo.
Yiziphi izinhlobo zezinselelo zokubeletha ozibhekana nazo NGENA ukuthi ungumuntu ohamba nge-autistic?
Ake siqale ngezinsuku zokudlala. Lezi zihlobo oluthile lobuhlungu kimi. Okokuqala, nginezingane ezinhlanu eziza endaweni yami (Egad-no!) Noma kufanele ngithathe izingane zami endaweni yomunye umuntu. Ngokuvamile, abanye abantu bangase bangabi nabantwana, kodwa akekho omunye ngaphandle kwabazali abakhulisa izingane ezine-autism EZIQHELELE ukungabi nabantwana. Ngakho-ke, nginamathela ekuqapheleni ukuqiniseka ukuthi akukho lutho oluphukile ngenkathi uzama ukuqala inkulumo encane futhi ungalokwazi ngempela ukuthi ungayeka nini ukukhuluma. Wonke amadethi okudlala adinga yonke intambama yokuphumula sonke, futhi mhlawumbe nobusuku be-pizza efriziwe ukuze abuyele.
Ake siqhubekele ezinseleleni ezinengqondo . Ngingomunye umuntu owake wathi umsebenzi wakhe wephupho wayephethe umbhoshongo womlilo. Akekho abantu, akukho umsindo, akukho ukungena, ukuthula nje nokuvula isikhala. "Ngeke ube nesithukuthezi?" abantu babuze. Angizange ngikuqonde umbuzo.
Ngokusobala, ukuphila endlini enezingane ezinhlanu kubonakala kancane. Ama-headphone ajwayelekile kuwo. Eminyakeni embalwa edlule ngikhathele ukukhamuluka kuwo wonke umuntu ukuthi 'Vula phansi!' Ngayeka futhi ngenza wonke umuntu abe ne-headphone yakhe ngakho ngiyakwazi ukugcina ivolumu yomkhaya ibe ngukuduma okukhulu. Isikhathi sokuthula asikwazi ukuxoxisana. Abaningi bezingane bayeke ukulala, kodwa basacelwa ukuba bachithe isikhathi esithile ekamelweni labo usuku ngalunye ukufunda, bedlala ethebulethi (oh, indlela engiyithanda ngayo ubuchwepheshe!) Futhi ngimane nje ngingaqhubeki ngaphandle kokuqhaqhaza ama-couches namadonga.
Lapho besesikoleni, lokhu kusebenza kuphela ezinganeni ezincane, kodwa ngezimpelasonto futhi kulo lonke ihlobo lokhu kungokwenyama wonke umuntu. Yebo, ngibatshele ukuthi kubalulekile ukufunda ukuphumula nokuzivuselela ngokwabo. Kodwa empeleni, indlela engiyithola ngayo kusukela ekupheleni komunye usuku kuya komunye ngaphandle kokuba ngumzali okhulu kakhulu. Le mizuzu engu-45 inginika isikhathi sokuba nendebe yamanje ikhofi eshisayo, khumbula ukuphefumula bese ubuyela emuva ntambama yezingxabano nokuzijabulisa.
Ingabe i-autism empeleni ikusize wenze umsebenzi ongcono njengomzali wezingane ezine-autism? Uma kunjalo, kanjani?
Kulungile. Ngicabanga ukuthi ingxenye ebanzi kunazo zonke izingane zokubeletha ezine-autism akuqondi. Kulula ukusho zonke izinto ezilungile; Kulula ukusho ukuthi siyazi ukuthi abakwazi ukulawula ukuqubuka . Kodwa ukuqonda ngempela leyo mizwa, ukuba wazibonela, ukwazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani sengathi ingqondo yakho ibalekela futhi ithatha imizwelo yakho nomzimba wakho ukuze uhambe-akunakwenzeka ukuchazela abantu abangakaze bazibonele.
Nokho, lapho ngiyibona, kungenza ngifinyelele isikhathi lapho behlala khona. Kungivumela ukuba ngibahlangabezane lapho bekhona, esikhundleni sokucela ukuba bangihlangabeze. Ivumela ukuba ngibe ngummeli onamandla kubo. Kungivumela ukuba ngitshele ukuthi, 'ngisho noMama uzizwa ngaleyo ndlela ngezinye izikhathi.'
Yiziphi ezinye zamasu nezindlela zokubhekana nazo oshilo ukuthi ungathanda ukudlula?
Yamukela indawo yakho yokududuza. Kukhona ngoba isebenza. Uma ungathola kusukela ekupheleni komunye usuku kuze kube komunye nomuntu wonke othandwa futhi ahlonishwayo, esehlangabezane nezidingo zosuku futhi egcina wonke umuntu ephephile, wenze okwanele usuku. Ukubeletha akuyona umncintiswano, awunqobe umklomelo wokuba umama we-Pinterest. Uma ingane yakho ibonisa esikoleni ngehembe layo ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ngoba indlela efanele yokuzungezile yayizoyilwa, ukuzwa ingane yakho kuyindlela engcono kakhulu ongayithola. Yebo, noma ngabe kwakuyilanga lesithombe, futhi ufike lapho njengoba nje insimbi ihlelile, ngenkathi usugqoke amabhulukwe akho we-pajama. Ungase ufune ukuhlosisa amabhulukwe wangempela emihlanganweni ye-IEP--bonakala kubheka ithoni efanele.
Ingabe wabelane nge-diagnosis yakho ye-autism nezingane zakho? Uma kunjalo, wenze kanjani lokho?
Yebo, ngoba bekuyizingxoxo eziqhubekayo endlini yethu, akuyona into embula kakhulu. Sibheka nge-neurodiversity njengengxenye ebalulekile yezwe, nangabo bonke abantu emhlabeni abasebenza ubuchopho babo ngokuhlukile. Ngimisa ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zami futhi ngikhuthaze izingane ukuba zenze okufanayo. Uma bebona ngithi, 'Ngiye ngaba khona, ngizogeza ngehora lehora,' kulula kakhulu ukuba bangitshele uma badinga ikhefu ngoba kuyinto evamile futhi eyamukelekayo kithi umndeni.
Ingabe uthola ukuthi i-autism yakho yenza kube nzima ukubhekana nokulindela kwe-neurotypical (phakathi kwabazali bezingane, abahlinzeki, othisha, njll)?
Kungaba, ikakhulukazi uma ngibonisa ukuxilongwa kwami. Sisaba nomunye umuntu osebenza nomuntu oneminyaka engu-5 ubudala owayesebenzisa imikhuba enhle futhi eyihlazo. Lapho ngibonisa ukukhathazeka kwami futhi ngibonakalise ukuthi ngiyitholile yini, wayebonakala eguquliwe, ngakho-ke yonke imisho isiphelile, 'Uyakwazi?' njengokungathi ngangingakwazi futhi nginamandla.
Ngizithola ngibe yizwi elikhuluma ngezinye izikhathi ngezikhathi ezithile. Iningi labantu engisebenza nabo lizimisele ukulalela futhi linomusa futhi lihlonipha. Kodwa-ke, nginezemfundo kanye nesipiliyoni ukuze ngidonsele kwabanye abantu abaningi, futhi ngizibuza ngezinye izikhathi uma imibono yami eqinile nokuvikela okubukhali kubonakala njengomzali onzima ngaphandle kwalokho ukuze ngiphakamise izitatimende zami.
Ngiyeke ukungazicubungula kahle uma sekuyisikhathi sokuyeka ukukhuluma, ukuyeka ukufundisa, ukuyeka ukuchaza, futhi ngiyaqhubeka kuze kube yilapho ingxoxo ihamba. Ngezinye izikhathi, angicabangi ukuthi kuhamba kahle. Angazi ukuthi ngingaba njengommeli owakhulume ukuthi kwakungekho okwenzeka kimi. Ngingathanda ukucabanga ukuthi ngizobe ngiyizwi izingane zami zifanelwe, kodwa ngikholelwa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ngangingeke ngibe nomhlangano omkhulu wokuphikisana uma ngingazange ngiphile ngalezi zinsuku kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwami.
Zikhona izindlela zokwelapha eziphathelene ne-autism ezikusiza ukuthi uphathe kangcono ukubeletha?
Angikaze ngithole ukulingana okulingana nosayizi owodwa-ukusebenza wonke umuntu kithi. Njengoba nje kungekho bantu ababili abane-autism abanesidingo esifanayo, akukho ukwelashwa okuyoba nomthelela ofanayo kuwo wonke umuntu.
Sisebenzise amasu amaningi athathwa ekwelashweni komsebenzi ukuze umkhaya wethu ugijime kahle. Sisebenzisa amashejuli okubukwayo, imizila, kanye nokusebenza okuningi emakhono okuphila okuyisisekelo. Sisebenzisa ukwelashwa kwamazwi , ngisho nama-PECS njengoba kudingeka ukuze kube lula ukuxhumana. Senza i-yoga ukusiza ngenye imisebenzi yengqondo / yomzimba, futhi ngokwami, into engcono kakhulu engizitholile kwakuwumsebenzi owenziwa nodokotela osebenzisa i-CBT ukufunda ukuyeka ukuhamba kwami okulindelekile 'okujwayelekile' okungekho noma ubani, noma kuphi.
Ukubeletha kuyindaba yokuba ngumqondisi wokuvakasha; ngezinye izikhathi kufanele ushintshe uhambo ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zomuntu wonke. Kumele uhlole ukuthi ungayenza kanjani ngendlela yokuthi akekho ozwa sengathi abalahlekile.
Ukukhulisa Abazali Ukuvela Kubaba Ophethe Ukuphila Kwe-Autism Diagnosis
UChristopher Scott Wyatt ungumuntu omdala one-autism (no-PhD) ovimba ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ku-http: //www.tameri.com/csw/autism/. Yena nomkakhe yizingane ezithandayo (kanye nabazali abangabazali) bezingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile.
Yini eyakuholela ekutholeni ukuxilongwa kwakho kwe-autism?
Ekutholeni ukuthi ihlelwe ngokwengqondo ekuzalweni, ilebula lokuxilonga izoshintsha njalo eminyakeni embalwa. Kwakuyi-autism ngo-2006 noma lapho i-DSM-IV-TR ishintsha izinto futhi yanda kakhulu. Njengoba amalebula agcina ashintsha , angiqiniseki ukuthi ayasiza; uma kukhona okunciphisa okukhethwa kukho ekuqaleni kwemfundo yami. Namuhla, sinezinto ezimangalisayo mayelana nokuthola izingane zethu. Kungasiza, futhi kungalimala.
Ingabe ukufunda ukuthi wena autistic kuthinta isinqumo sakho sokuba nezingane? Futhi uma kunjalo, wenze kanjani isinqumo?
Akunjalo Empeleni. Silinde kuze kube yilapho sinezindlu futhi sivikelekile ngokuqinisekile, cishe okungaphezulu mayelana nobuntu bethu ngokujwayelekile. Mina nomkami sasifuna ukunikeza ikhaya elihle, elizinzile kunoma yikuphi abantwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bendabuko noma bodwa-bamukela.
Ingabe ukufunda ukuthi wena u-autistic ushintshe ngendlela oyihlo?
Kungenzeka ukuthi i-autism yami ingenza ngibe nesineke, uma nje siyazi ukuthi ngathola kanjani imfundo nokusekela. Ngibekezelela izidingo zezingane zokuthula, ukuhleleka, nokuzwa kokulawula. Ngiyaqonda izinto ezifunayo ukuba zihlelekile futhi zibikezelwe. Badinga lokho, njengezingane ezikhulayo, futhi bazozidinga uma sikwazi ukuzamukela.
Yiziphi izinhlobo zezinselelo zokubeletha ozibhekana nazo NGENA ukuthi ungumuntu ohamba nge-autistic?
Asinayo inethiwekhi yokusekela, okungenani hhayi endaweni yangakini. Sinabo thina kanye nezingane, ngezinsizakalo ezinikezwe ezikoleni. Ngakho-ke, ngalowo mqondo, asifani nabanye abazali ngoba asinalo ukuxhumana nabantu abazali abaningi abakwenzayo. Izinsuku zokudlala azenzeki ngoba ezinye izingane eziseduze zikhulile kunezethu.
Yiziphi ezinye zezindlela namasu okubhekana nazo ongathanda ukudlula kuzo?
Isikhathi sokuthula nezikhala zokuthula kithi nabantwana. Izikhwama zezinyosi ezinamabhuku ziwasiza kakhulu. Sinezinto zokuzwa: amabhola okucindezeleka, i-putty ecatshangwayo, amabhola we-spiky, nezinye izinto abazodlala nazo lapho becindezelekile.
Ingabe uthola ukuthi i-autism yakho yenza kube nzima ukubhekana nokulindela kwe-neurotypical (phakathi kwabazali bezingane, abahlinzeki, othisha, njll)?
Ngikhathazekile ngokushesha nezikole, abasebenzi bezenhlalakahle, nezinkantolo. Angiqondi ukuthi kungani izidingo zezingane aziyona into ebaluleke kakhulu. Umkami ungikhumbuza ukuthi ngihambe noma ngihambe ngandlela-thile ngemva kokubhekana 'nesistimu' engasebenzi kubantwana.
Zikhona izindlela zokwelapha eziphathelene ne-autism ezikusiza ukuthi uphathe kangcono ukubeletha?
Angiyena fan of therapies eziningi zokuziphatha , ngokusekelwe nakho okungalungile. Izindlela zami zokubhekana nazo ziyizobuciko: umculo, ukudweba, ukudweba, ukubhala nokuthatha izithombe. Sithole ukuthi umbala nokudweba kusiza amantombazane, futhi. Lapho amantombazane edinga ukuphumula futhi abuyele, umculo (ngokumangalisayo, u-Elvis - Love Me Tender) usebenza.
Umgomo wethu ukukhumbuza amantombazane ukuthi amalebula awasichazi kithi futhi akufanele azichaze wona ngokwawo.
> Imithombo:
> Deweerdt, uSara. Izinjabulo nezinselele zokuba umzali ophethe i-autism. I-Atlantic , Meyi 18, 2017.
> Ukuxoxisana no CS Wyatt, ngoJulayi 2017
> Ingxoxo noJessica Benz, ngoJulayi 2017
> Kim, uCynthia. Umama: Ukubeletha okugunyazayo. I-Autism Women's Network, uJanuwari 22, 2014.