Ukubhekana Nokuphela Kwezinkinga Zokuphila
Ukufa yingxenye yemvelo kodwa iningi lethu sigwema ukuxoxa ngokufa kwethu kanye nohambo lokugcina okumelwe sithathe. Ukufunda okwengeziwe ngale ndaba enzima, noma kunjalo, kungasisiza ngempela futhi kunciphise ukungaqiniseki nokwesaba ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi sizizwa.
Kungcono ukulungiselela nokuzifundela ekupheleni kwenqubo yokuphila, indlela yokuhlela umngcwabo obalulekile noma inkonzo yokukhumbula, nendlela yokubhekana ngokuphumelelayo nosizi nokulahlekelwa ngemuva kokufa komuntu othandekayo.
Inqubo yokuphela kokuphila
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi izici eziningi zizothinta isipiliyoni sokufa komuntu ngamunye, njenge:
- Ubukhona besifo, ukugula, noma esinye isimo sezokwelapha
- Uhlobo lwezempilo olwamukelayo
- Imithi (s) kanye / noma imithi yokwandisa impilo
- Ukunakekelwa kwe-palliative kanye / noma ukungena ohlelweni lwe-hospice
- Isizathu sokufa uqobo
Ngaphezu kwalokho, inqubo yokuphela kokuphila ayihambisani nesimiso esilandelayo noma ilandela "izimpawu" ezicacile ezibonisa ncamashi ukuthi umuntu othandekayo uzohlala isikhathi eside kangakanani.
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Izimpawu Zonke Amandla Ommeli Kufanele
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Ukukhuluma Nokuxoxa Ngokuphela Kokuphila Okukhathazeka Ngomdlavuza Webele
Kwabanye abantu, inqubo yokufa ingathatha amasonto ambalwa, izinyanga ezimbalwa, noma ngisho nangaphezulu. Kwabanye, ukuguqulwa kusuka empilweni ebonakalayo enhle ekufeni kungase kwenzeke ngokushesha-kungakapheli izinsuku noma ngisho namahora.
Lokho kusho ukuthi, nakuba kungekho okuhlangenwe nakho okufa emhlabeni wonke okuvamile kubantu bonke, abantu abaningi basabonakalisa ukufanana ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo njengoba ukufa kuhamba. Ngokuvamile, umuntu angase aqale ukuhoxisa kumalungu omndeni, abangani, nakwabanye abathandekayo, noma abonise isithakazelo esincane noma esingenasithakazelo ekuxhumaneni kwezenhlalakahle, ezokuzilibazisa, kanye / noma imisebenzi engokwenyama ayeyitholile. Abanye bangase bahlalisane futhi bathole izivakashi kodwa kungabonakali ukubonisa intukuthelo noma ukwenza kube nzima ukuxhumana nabo noma ukuhlinzeka .
Phakathi nenqubo yokuphela kokuphila, akuyona into engavamile ukuba abantu bathole izindaba zabo ngokuhlelekile, uma bengakafiki. Lokhu kungase kuhlanganise izindaba eziwusizo kakhulu, njenge:
- Ukudala noma ukuqedela intando yomthetho
- Ukusungula umyalelo wokunakekelwa kwempilo kwangaphambili noma "Ungabuyiselani"
- Ukulungiselela inkonzo yomngcwabo noma yesikhumbuzo
Futhi, ngokuvamile abafayo bacabanga ngokuphila kwabo futhi bangase bazame ukuxazulula ubuhlobo obunzima noma ukubhekana nokuzisola. Ukusebenza ngokusebenzisa " ImiSebenzi Emihlanu yokuDala " kungasiza abantu ukuthi babatshele abantu abathandekayo, bathole umuzwa wokuvala, futhi bazuze umqondo wokuthula njengoba ukufa kuhamba.
Abanye abantu abafayo bangase babone into eyaziwa ngokuthi " ukusheshisa ukuqwashisa ukufa " -ukuqaphela ukuthi kukhona okwenzeka kubo ngisho noma engakwazi ukuyiveza ngokwanele. Ngesinye isikhathi abaxoshwa ngabanakekeli njengokungabikho kokuphumula noma ukugcina ukungapheli , isiguli esifalayo singase sikhulume noma senze sengathi kudingeka silungiselele uhambo noma senze "umbono" ngokubona othandekayo oshonile noma "indawo enhle."
Ngezinye izikhathi umuntu oshonile angase athole ushintsho ekuboneni okubonakalayo okuholela ekukhohlisweni noma ekuhloleni. Isiguli singase sibonise lokhu, isibonelo, ngu:
- Ukuzwa noma ukubona izinto ezingekho, okuholele ukwesaba mayelana "nezitha ezifihlekile"
- Ukukhuluma nabantu abangekho ekamelweni (noma abafele kakade)
- Ukuzwa kungenakunqotshwa
- Ukubonakala kuphazamisekile futhi kuthatha izingubo zabo noma amashidi okulala
- Ukwenza ukushintsha okungahleliwe noma ukunyakaza okubonakala kungenangqondo kubabukeli
Njengoba ukufa kusondela, ngokuvamile abafayo balahlekelwa isifiso sabo- ngisho nokudla okuthandayo noma iziphuzo-futhi banciphise isisindo. Nakuba lokhu kungase kuvelele othandekayo begulane, lokhu kungokwemvelo ingxenye yohambo lokuphela kokuphila ngoba umzimba womuntu udinga amandla angaphansi. Eqinisweni, imithi yomzimba womuntu ingashintsha okwamanje futhi empeleni iveza umqondo omuhle wokuthokoza phakathi komuntu oshonile.
Ngaphezu kokungadli noma ukuphuza, umuntu ozofa ngokuvamile ngeke akhulume kancane, uma kunjalo, futhi angase ahluleke ukuphendula imibuzo noma izingxoxo kwabanye.
Angase alale okuningi, futhi umsebenzi womzimba uzokhula uma ukhona engekho ngokuphelele.
Ngasekupheleni kwenqubo yokufa, umzimba womuntu uzoqala ukukhombisa ezinye / ezilandelayo:
- Ukudonsa ekushiseni komzimba ngezinga elilodwa noma ngaphezulu
- Ukuncipha kancane kancane kwegazi
- I-pulse engavamile engase isebenze ngokushesha noma ihambe kancane
- Ukwanda kwendlovu
- Ukunciphisa ukujikeleza kwegazi okuthinta umbala wesikhumba futhi kuvame ukubonakala kakhulu ezindebe nasemibhedeni yezipikili njengoba beba mhlophe futhi bluish noma ubuhlaza
- Ukuphuza okukhula okungajwayelekile futhi kuvame ukuhamba kancane futhi kungabandakanya ukuphefumula "kwe- Cheyne-Stokes " (ukuphefumula okusheshayo okulandelwa izikhathi ezingaphefumuli nhlobo)
- Ukubamba emphinjeni nasemoyeni ongabangela ukuphefumula okukhulu, ukuphefumula okumanzi noma "ukufa okuphazamisayo"
Njengoba umzimba womuntu uqala ukuvala, izandla noma izinyawo zakhe zingase zibe ngephutha futhi zibukeke ngokubonakala. Le ithoni yesikhumba enamahlombe ingase isakaze kancane kancane ngezandla nemilenze.
Amehlo omuntu angase ahlale evulekile noma evulekile, kodwa ngeke abone indawo azungezile futhi ngokuvamile ngeke aphendule.
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Yiziphi Izimbangela Eziyinhloko Zokufa Kwabantwana E-US?
Ochwepheshe ngokuvamile bakholelwa ukuthi ukuzwa kwethu ukuzwa kungukugcina ukuphela ngaphambi kokufa. Ngakho-ke, abathandekayo besiguli bangase bahlale futhi baxoxe nabantu abafa ngalesi sikhathi, uma befisa.
Ekugcineni, ukuphefumula kwesiguli kuyophela kanye nenhliziyo yakhe izoyeka ukushaya. Ukufa kwenzekile.
Ngalesi sikhathi, umzimba womuntu uqala uchungechunge lwezinqubo zomzimba ngemva kokufa . Lokhu kuhlanganisa:
- Ukunciphisa abafundi
- Ukuphumula kwemisipha namajwabu amehlo
- Ubuningi obukhulayo umbala ojwayelekile wesikhumba njengoba igazi liphuma emithanjeni encane esikhumbeni.
- Uma umzimba uhlala ungaphazanyiswa isikhathi eside (amahora amaningana), igazi lizozihlanganisa ezindaweni zomzimba eziseduzane nomhlabathi futhi, ekugcineni, izinguquko zamakhemikhali emangqamuzaneni omzimba ziyoholela ekufeni okunamandla-ukuqina okwesikhashana kwemisipha.
Ukuhlela Umngcwabo, iSikhumbuzo Sesevisi, noma Ukumiswa
Lapho othandekayo efa, kunemisebenzi eminingi abayosinda okufanele bayisingathe ngokushesha kanye nemisebenzi ehlukahlukene abayodinga ukuyenza ezinsukwini namaviki alandela ukufa .
- Uma lowo muntu efa ekhaya, kufanele uxhumane nomnyango wamaphoyisa wendawo noma shayela u-911.
- Uma ethola ukunakekelwa kwezingane esibhedlela, kufanele ushayele i-ejensi yakho yokugula.
- Uma ukufa kwenzeka endaweni yokunakekelwa, njengesibhedlela noma ikhaya labahlengikazi, khona-ke abasebenzi lapho bazophatha izinqubo ezidingekayo.
Ngemuva kokuba iziphathimandla zenze isimemezelo sokufa, umndeni oseduze noma umfowabo oshonile uzoqala ukuhlela inkonzo yomngcwabo noma yesikhumbuzo , phakathi kweminye imisebenzi eminingi edingekayo. Uma othandekayo wakho ehlelwe noma ehlelwe ngomngcwabo wakhe noma enkonzweni yesikhumbuzo, kufanele uxhumane nomhlinzeki okhethiwe ukuze axoxe ngemininingwane futhi aqede amalungiselelo.
Ngeshwa, iningi labantu liyakugwema ukukhuluma ngokufa ngesikhathi sokuphila, ngakho-ke ungalokothi uxoxe ngezifiso zabo zokugcina nomuntu othandekayo, isihlobo noma umngane. Ngakho-ke, kungase kudingeke wenze amalungiselelo ngokuphelele ngokwakho. Isinqumo sokuqala okufanele ukwenze ukhethe ukuthi yini ongathanda ukuyenza ngomzimba wakho othandekayo-uhlobo lwesimo sokugcina. Unezinketho eziningana:
- I-alkaline hydrolysis
- Umnikelo womzimba (lokhu kukhetho kufanele kuhlelwe ngaphambi kokufa)
- I-casketed ngezansi-emhlabathini ingcwatshwe emathuneni noma epaki yesikhumbuzo
- I-casketed ngenhla-umhlabathi ingcwatshwe endaweni ye-mausoleum
- Ukushisa
- Ukungcwatshwa kwemvelo noma "okuhlaza"
Imindeni eminingi izosebenza nomhlinzeki oqeqeshiwe, njengomqondisi womngcwabo noma umgcini wokugubha , ngesikhathi somhlangano wokulungiselela umngcwabo ukudala inkonzo efanelekayo, enenjongo eyenza abathandekayo bahloniphe futhi bakhumbule oshonile ngenkathi beduduza futhi basekela. Ngesikhathi uhlela le nsizakalo, uzocelwa ukuba unikeze ulwazi oludingekayo ukuze ubhale umgwamanda futhi ungase uthathe isinqumo sokubhala nokuhambisa i-eulogy ngesikhathi sokungcwaba noma inkonzo yesikhumbuzo, futhi.
Eminye imindeni ikhetha ukubeka phambili izinsizakalo ezinjalo ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Kulezi zimo, zingase zikhethe ukungcwatshwa okuqondile noma okusheshayo noma ukushiswa okuqondile . Njengomthengi, kufanele ubuyekeze futhi uqonde "I-Funeral Rule" ye-Federal Trade Commission, evikela amalungelo akho lapho uthenga izinto noma izinsizakalo ezivela kubanikezeli abathile (ikakhulukazi izindlu zomngcwabo).
Ukubhekana Nokudabuka Nokulahlekelwa
Usizi luyimpendulo enamandla, eningi, futhi engalawuleki lapho abantu bezwa khona emva kwesenzakalo esibuhlungu noma esibuhlungu, njengokufa komuntu othandekayo. Ngenkathi usizi luyimpendulo engokwemvelo futhi edingekayo ekulahlekelweni, umuntu ngamunye uyolila ngendlela yakhe ehlukile kanye nesikhathi sakhe esiyingqayizivele.
Naphezu kobuhlungu obunjalo bomuntu osizi, abaningi abalilayo basuke bevame ukuveza ezinye zezici ezilandelayo phakathi nezinsuku, amasonto, noma izinyanga ezilandela ukufa komuntu othandekayo:
- Ukukhala, ukukhala, noma ukukhala
- Ukuphazamiseka kwephethini yokulala, njengokulala, ukulala kancane, noma ukulala kakhulu
- Ukulahlekelwa kwamandla jikelele
- Ukuzizwa ukhululekile noma unganandaba nemisebenzi edingekayo yosuku noma impilo ejwayelekile
- Izinguquko zokudla, njengokungathi azizwa ulambile noma udla kakhulu-ikakhulukazi ukudla okungenamsoco
- Ukuhoxiswa ekuxhumaneni okujwayelekile komphakathi kanye nobuhlobo
- Izinkinga zigxila noma zigxile emisebenzini, kungakhathaliseki emsebenzini, empilweni yomuntu siqu, noma ezintweni zokuzilibazisa
- Ukubuza izinkolelo ezingokomoya noma zenkolo, ukukhetha umsebenzi / umsebenzi, noma izinjongo zokuphila
- Imizwa yentukuthelo, inecala, isizungu, ukucindezeleka, ukungabi nalutho, noma ukudabuka
Ngenkathi kunezinkinga eziningi ezivamile eziphathelene nosizi olungabangela ukudabuka kanye nokulahleka esikuzwayo ngenkathi sililela ukufa komuntu othandekayo, akukho ukuphikisana ukuthi usizi lungaphazamisa kakhulu impilo yethu evamile kanye nemigomo.
Ukudabuka nobuhlungu obangelwa usizi kungenza imiphumela yangempela emzimbeni wethu, njengenkinga yokugaya ukudla, ubuhlungu nokungahambi kahle, nokuthola isisindo noma ukulahleka. Ungase uthole kunzima ukubuyela emsebenzini wakho noma ehhovisi ngenkathi ukhalela. Ngenxa yokuthi ungase unenkinga yokucabanga ngokucacile ngalesi sikhathi, kunezinqumo eziningana zokuphila okufanele uzibambezele ukwenza isikhashana, uma kungenzeka.
Azikho "izigaba" zokulila . Esikhundleni salokho, ukusabela kwethu ekufeni komuntu othandekayo kubalulekile kakhulu futhi ngamunye wethu kufanele athole izindlela zokubhekana nalo msebenzi kithi. Abanye abantu bakhetha ukulila ngokwabo futhi abafuni noma badinga usizo olungaphandle. Abanye bangase bafune futhi bathole induduzo ngokuhlanganyela ubuhlungu, intukuthelo, ukucindezeleka, neminye imizwelo abazizwa elandela ukulahlekelwa ngokujoyina iqembu lokusekela abafelwa endaweni yabo. Kukhona nje indlela engeyona "efanele" yokulila.
Uma ungathanda ukunikeza usizo nokududuza ilungu lomndeni osizi noma umngane, kunezindlela eziningi ezingokoqobo ongabasiza lapho bebhekana nokulahlekelwa kwabo. Nakuba ngokuvamile kubonakala kunzima ukuthola amagama afanele ukududuza isisulu-futhi abantu abaningi bathi izinto ezingalungile -ngokuthi ziyizincazelo ezizwakalayo, ezakhayo zentuthuko ongayinikela. Kodwa mhlawumbe isipho esiyigugu kakhulu ongayinikeza umuntu olila ukufa kungukuthula kwakho, ukuhlala kwakho kanye nokusekela okungaqiniseki, okungenakugwetshwa.
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